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What do i do im surrounded by christians and they want to change me?
October 17, 2016 at 1:30 pm
So my whole family is christian i used to be, but going through highschool learning about physics and biology it made me stray away from the bible since it made no sense, but to put it simply I'm 22 now, i still live with my mom and my sister with her boyfriend while im studying graphic design.
They recently joined a new church and i promised my mom that i would come once just to make her happy because i know it wont affect me in any way. So i went, at the end though some of them came up to me to ask if i would come back. I replied "probably not, I'm an atheist". So then after that they tried to debate me on the existence of god obviously they had no proof and they just mocked evolution and the big bang.
At the end though this is what really pissed me off they said "give it three months you will be reborn and sitting in this church willingly". What do i do in this situation im surrounded by people that think they will change me i cant reason with them because they are just mentally incompetent to think rationally.
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RE: What do i do im surrounded by christians and they want to change me?
October 17, 2016 at 1:41 pm
(This post was last modified: October 17, 2016 at 1:42 pm by mihoda.)
Study hard. Move away forever.
In the meantime... find local non-religious meetup groups. Check meetup.com, craigslist, anywhere you might find a club or interest group that you'd like.
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RE: What do i do im surrounded by christians and they want to change me?
October 17, 2016 at 1:59 pm
You cannot change them. You can just ignore them.
Get out on your own ASAP.
There are people in this world who far prefer fantasy to reality. They are beyond help.
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RE: What do i do im surrounded by christians and they want to change me?
October 17, 2016 at 2:06 pm
You're 22 and you can't figure this one out for yourself?
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RE: What do i do im surrounded by christians and they want to change me?
October 17, 2016 at 2:11 pm
(October 17, 2016 at 2:06 pm)ChadWooters Wrote: You're 22 and you can't figure this one out for yourself?
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RE: What do i do im surrounded by christians and they want to change me?
October 17, 2016 at 3:19 pm
Basically, ignore it and move out asap...
The fool hath said in his heart, There is a God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good.
Psalm 14, KJV revised edition
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RE: What do i do im surrounded by christians and they want to change me?
October 17, 2016 at 3:23 pm
Offer to take the challenge if they put their money where their mouths are. If you're not converted in three months, they give you a thousand dollars.
I'm not anti-Christian. I'm anti-stupid.
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RE: What do i do im surrounded by christians and they want to change me?
October 17, 2016 at 3:28 pm
I think as hard as it is, the sooner you accept that there's nothing you can say to change someone's mind when deep-seated beliefs/ideologies are in play, the better off you'll be. It may feel unfair and frustrating (to say the least) but you're up against private logic, most of which you won't even see because it's protected. And it works both ways... they probably feel the same way about you. There's nothing a Jew could have said to a Nazi to change his mind, no matter how good the argument, unless he was already on the fence in the first place. So the only thing to do is find a way to co-exist in whatever capacity and deal with it as much as you can internally. IMO if you fight it... keep on trying to change them... all you're in for is a world of (unproductive) pain because people rarely change as a result of 'interventions' by others, much less if those others are perceived as the enemy, and again much less when deep-seated and perhaps even subconscious beliefs are in play; people only change if or when they are in themselves, ready to change. So as much as the situation may feel unfair on either side, in the grand scheme of things it is fair because it's just human nature in conflict... the way our minds work... and the fuzzy nature of our 'logic' means that there will always be clashes like this. Physically escape the environment if you can, or are so inclined, but I still think it's better to just try and accept that fact and find a way to deal with it in your own mind without having to resort to running away... because that'll make you stronger in the long run. Just my two cents.
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RE: What do i do im surrounded by christians and they want to change me?
October 17, 2016 at 5:05 pm
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It's quite simple, do as the british do and tell them 'Hey, fuck off mate, I don't want to hear about it anymore.
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RE: What do i do im surrounded by christians and they want to change me?
October 17, 2016 at 5:23 pm
I mean it is pretty basic. It's obnoxious because you want to punch their smug faces in... oh you don't, that's just me? Fine you want to tell them off and prove that they are being the childish ones but you can't. That is why this vicious battle of religion still rings. Either never go back, not having to see the church goers at least solves that part, and don't discuss it with your family or you move out. Either way isn't fun.
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