[split] The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)

[Edwardo Piet]

Your unrepentance reiterates my future "hands off" approach. 

Considering I'm the one who didn't get personal and I'm also the only one who has apologized and that you're saying I'm saying the exact opposite of what I said then.... yeah what can I possibly say?

Since you're an adult and can take it? I personally think you're full of shit. But that is absolutely fine and we can disagree on that no problem

Wow. Yes we can. Although until extremely recently you liked me and didn't have this opinion of me... what happened just now? I don't get it.

Wish you could say the same.

Okay yeah I'm definitely not the one who has a problem with disagreement. 

Well honestly your entire post to Nymphadora was passive aggressive frippery.

If you'd rather misread and disbelieve my sincerity then so be it. She was outright aggressive and I rose above it and was sincere and misread and misrepresented and insulted but if you'd rather stick your head in the sand and say I'm the one who has a problem then fine.

I'll probably just skip your posts altogether. Honestly.

Well if your opinion of me is going to change that quickly then yes please. I've had enough fickleness already. I don't understand this.

[Joods]

This is typical behavior of someone who gets caught doing something they shouldn't be and out comes the denial - even when presented with evidence. The guilt trip starts and then the victimization begins. And you wonder why there are people that distance themselves from you.

This shit is exhausting and I'm done here. Lucky should be done as well because it's just not worth anyone's time and effort to deal with the nonsense.

[Edwardo Piet]

See this is what the problem is. People don't believe me. But I'm sorry that's not my fucking problem if my sincerity was being questioned I could have been told that ages ago it would have explained why I was being misrepresented fucking ages ago.

I absolutely mean what I say so if you don't believe me that's not my problem. You're clearly not worth getting upset about.

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Your unrepentance reiterates my future "hands off" approach.

Well honestly your entire post to Nymphadora was passive aggressive frippery.
I'll probably just skip your posts altogether. Honestly.

I'm glad I wasn't the only one who saw that. I didn't want to call it out though because, no doubt, it would have been met with all sorts of wall salad.

The fact you don't believe me just shows that you're not reading my posts and further confirms that I'm not the one with the problem here so I'm totally done now I'm wasting my breath and you've let me waste it all this time by not telling me you're completely misrepresenting me because you haven't even been taking me at my words up until now. What an utter waste of emotions on people who I thought actually knew me. You're so not okay with disagreement that you'd rather spend ages not telling me you're not even believing what I'm saying.

For fuck's sake. Utter waste to bother explaining myself to someone who isn't even taking me at my word when I write my words.

I meant everything I said and you're the problem because you're the one calling it passive aggressive when it isn't. What an utter waste of emotions on you. You say all this nasty shit and I say I appreciate and mean it and you say that I don't. If you're going to call me a liar then that's one thing that's not okay because that means I've wasted my entire time communicating with you while you've pretended like I wasn't wasting it.

Goodbye. You don't deserve my honesty.

[Regina]

[Edwardo Piet]

I don't change how I feel about people over a petty disagreement.

I come back after a break to realize that I deserve better than this crap.

[Thumpalumpacus]

To everyone involved -- comes a time when we should realize we're shoveling good money in after bad.

Picking at wounds generally slows down healing.

[Joods]

Blaming other people for your own shortcomings, I see. Twisting the facts when they are right in front of you. Outright denying things. I see where this is going.

Okay. I'm done with you too. Good thing because your childish bullshit was getting out of hand. You accuse me of not reading your posts just because I don't believe you? Wow. So, the whole being an adult thing just went right out the window where you're concerned. Clearly any normal rational person wouldn't blame their faults on others like that.

Enjoy alienating others with your drivel.

[Edwardo Piet]

No I never said you don't read my posts just because you don't believe me. I said that if you don't believe me that's not my problem and no wonder you've been misrepresenting me for so long. If you're going to misread my posts then don't bother reading them at all.

When my posts literally say the exact opposite of what you're saying I'm saying then I really have wasted my breath. When I've explained myself to someone I care about and I thought cared about me for so long and they then finally call me a liar then yes I have wasted my energy and emotions on someone who isn't remotely worth it.

You're the one outright denying things. You're literally saying I'm saying the exact opposite of what I've been saying. You'd rather say that 2+2=5, call me a liar, take disagreement as an attack on you and project your own inability to handle things onto me than deal with things like an adult.

It absolutely is me who is the one who needs to walk on eggshells here. I literally can't even say "I'm hurt" without someone throwing a tantrum even when I say "that's okay" they'll see black as white and white as black rather than understand that disagreement is fine and emotions are fine.

[Mystical]

You seem to have a listening problem, Hammie. 

See this is what the problem is. People don't believe me. But I'm sorry that's not my fucking problem if my sincerity was being questioned I could have been told that ages ago it would have explained why I was being misrepresented fucking ages ago.

Considering I'm the one who didn't get personal and I'm also the only one who has apologized and that you're saying I'm saying the exact opposite of what I said then.... yeah what can I possibly say?

Where.. exactly, is this apology? *hint A passive aggressive non apology does not count.

[Edwardo Piet]

To everyone involved -- comes a time when we should realize we're shoveling good money in after bad.

Picking at wounds generally slows down healing.

Absolutely!

But none of this even had to be a big deal. And it wouldn't even have to be a big deal now either if it weren't for others who would rather hold onto grudges based on their own complete misrepresenation of what someone said and damage a friendship than actually treat a spade as a spade, just feelings as just feelings and differences of opinion as differences of opinion.

It's ironically not me that can't let go. I don't always drop subjects but I don't hold onto resentment in the first place merely because someone disagrees with me. Nor do I project my own inability to handle a difference of opinion onto the other person.

There's literally no resentment to let go of. Not always the case on the other side...

I have friends that I disagree on on many things and it's obviously all completely fine because they're friends.

Psychological projection is far more common than I thought. In my experience I'm starting to learn that it's literally the people who can't handle disagreement who tell me to let things go and accuse me of not being able to handle disagreement when I disagree with them.

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Well I already apologized outside of open forum and clearly I'm not the one who needs to apologize anyway because I never got personal.

Here I was apologizing for being rude because I was still a little rude for saying "Horseshit" and "bullshit" even though Judi was far ruder and harsher and got far more personal... I was still rude so I apologized anyway.

And what happens when I return?

People confirm that not only was I completely right but I was even more right than I thought I was. I very much am the one who has to walk on eggshells and I very much am NOT the one who can't handle disagreement.

People who take an attack on their opinions as an attack on them and insult me and misrepresent me and call me a liar... okay those people can fuck off out of my life now please.