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RE: Find out how much your fellow forum members are getting screwed
April 11, 2018 at 2:46 pm
(April 11, 2018 at 2:36 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: (April 11, 2018 at 2:20 pm)Lutrinae Wrote: A couple times a year is fine for me. I'm not a sex maniac.
I would probably be completely satisfied with once a week myself, but the spouse wants it more so we do about 4ish on average. Which I appreciate because I feel like more sex is healthy for a marriage.
LOL, you guys sound exactly like us in the sex department.
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RE: Find out how much your fellow forum members are getting screwed
April 11, 2018 at 2:46 pm
(April 11, 2018 at 2:37 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Mooney Whats your rules?
If one of us wants to play outside the relationship they have to be willing to let the other do so as well.
The other party has to approve of the person.
The person must be clean and you can't go off what they say.
Protection is a must, no believing a woman is on birth control or trusting in it solo.
No relationship with the person. Meaning no going to dinner, movie, etc. You aren't dating you are just screwing. If feelings start developing the person is now not allowed. (This has not happened, if anything our other play makes us go back to each other saying how much they are still the best we've had)
Everyone has to be ok with everything at all times. The moment someone isn't things stop.
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RE: Find out how much your fellow forum members are getting screwed
April 11, 2018 at 2:49 pm
(April 11, 2018 at 2:46 pm)mlmooney89 Wrote: (April 11, 2018 at 2:37 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Mooney Whats your rules?
If one of us wants to play outside the relationship they have to be willing to let the other do so as well.
The other party has to approve of the person.
The person must be clean and you can't go off what they say.
Protection is a must, no believing a woman is on birth control or trusting in it solo.
No relationship with the person. Meaning no going to dinner, movie, etc. You aren't dating you are just screwing. If feelings start developing the person is now not allowed. (This has not happened, if anything our other play makes us go back to each other saying how much they are still the best we've had)
Everyone has to be ok with everything at all times. The moment someone isn't things stop.
Out of curiosity, how do y'all find people like this? I mean like, how do you bring up the subject to someone you might wanna have a sexual relationship with? Since peiple will default to assuming you're unavailable since you're married, I've always wondered how the conversation starts lol.
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April 11, 2018 at 2:52 pm
Also I've never told my partner no to sex. Even if I don't feel like having sex I play along and soon enough he has turned me on so then we both want it. Figure if he can do the work to turn me on I can give the effort to try. Plus then if ever I'm turned on and he isn't he will do the same for me (like me smiling and saying I'm going to bed isn't enough to turn him on lol)
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April 11, 2018 at 2:54 pm
I am a sad fuck that just loves my wife.
But, that said, sexuality is a personal thing.
I only have 2 rules for people:
Consent
No minors.
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RE: Find out how much your fellow forum members are getting screwed
April 11, 2018 at 2:56 pm
(April 11, 2018 at 2:49 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Out of curiosity, how do y'all find people like this? I mean like, how do you bring up the subject to someone you might wanna have a sexual relationship with? Since peiple will default to assuming you're unavailable since you're married, I've always wondered how the conversation starts lol.
Started off with an app till I found a guy that has a group of friends that are casual sex friends. Went out to dinner as a group with them to get to know them, talked to them in group messages, a few we private messaged. One girl I thought he was going after solo but it turned into her wanting me so we had a threesome lol. The people in A69 know my frustration with threesomes :p
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RE: Find out how much your fellow forum members are getting screwed
April 11, 2018 at 3:00 pm
(April 11, 2018 at 2:52 pm)mlmooney89 Wrote: Also I've never told my partner no to sex. Even if I don't feel like having sex I play along and soon enough he has turned me on so then we both want it. Figure if he can do the work to turn me on I can give the effort to try. Plus then if ever I'm turned on and he isn't he will do the same for me (like me smiling and saying I'm going to bed isn't enough to turn him on lol)
Same here^
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RE: Find out how much your fellow forum members are getting screwed
April 11, 2018 at 3:50 pm
(April 11, 2018 at 2:46 pm)mlmooney89 Wrote: No relationship with the person. Meaning no going to dinner, movie, etc. You aren't dating you are just screwing. If feelings start developing the person is now not allowed. (This has not happened, if anything our other play makes us go back to each other saying how much they are still the best we've had)
Why even bother?
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April 11, 2018 at 4:03 pm
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For a while I took a drug called Clonadine that negatively affected my sex drive. Not performance, just desire. Plus tinnitus and wildly vivid dreams. I complained of the side effects and the doc doubled my dose, because the dose I was on didn't get the job done. I had already been put in the hospital by a previous drug he tried on me, and what he was trying to achieve was not that important. So I found a new doctor. Unfortunately, the low sex drive and tinnitus never went away. The irony is that my partner is up for anywhen, but it kind of seems like a chore to me now. If I had been between girlfriends, it would have worked out perfect. Long story short, every few months.
On the bright side, it's nice to have my gray matter in charge for a change.
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RE: Find out how much your fellow forum members are getting screwed
April 11, 2018 at 4:21 pm
(April 11, 2018 at 3:50 pm)alpha male Wrote: (April 11, 2018 at 2:46 pm)mlmooney89 Wrote: No relationship with the person. Meaning no going to dinner, movie, etc. You aren't dating you are just screwing. If feelings start developing the person is now not allowed. (This has not happened, if anything our other play makes us go back to each other saying how much they are still the best we've had)
Why even bother?
New experiences, new adventures, there is a rush in going outside the relationship...
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