Age Gap Relationships

[FrustratedFool]

Some people have been disapproving of my age-gap relationship.  Some don't care.
Some give people like DeCaprio or Stephen Fry stick for having age gap relationships.  Other's don't.

So long as everyone is old enough to be able to give informed consent, and so long as there's no professional misuse of a power imbalance (teacher, therapist, doctor, etc), then I see people's revulsion at age gap relationships as ageism or some other bigotry.

Opinions?

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

^It's one of those why-does-anyone-even-care topics.

Boru

[FrustratedFool]

I care because I face the issue directly in my life.

However, I appreciate your attitude on this topic. I'm amazed that enough people care to give me and my GF jip over it. Though I shouldn't be. I've recieved jip from many people over many of my private issues nad opinions. Some people are like that, I guess.

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

I care because I face the issue directly in my life.

However, I appreciate your attitude on this topic.  I'm amazed that enough people care to give me and my GF jip over it.  Though I shouldn't be.  I've recieved jip from many people over many of my private issues nad opinions.  Some people are like that, I guess.

Well, naturally -if you're on the receiving end of the nonsense, of COURSE you'd care. 

It must nice to have one's life so in order that there's nothing more important to worry over than someone else's relationship. Sheesh.

Boru

[FrustratedFool]

I doubt they have their lives in order. They just can't help themselves. I suspect they feel a deep repugnance and that they think they have social warrant to act out. It's the same when I've encountered similar reactions regarding other aspects of my personal life. Some people feel they have a right to be gauche bigots because they personally feel revulsion at something or other.

[Belacqua]

Some people have been disapproving of my age-gap relationship.  Some don't care.
Some give people like DeCaprio or Stephen Fry stick for having age gap relationships.  Other's don't.

So long as everyone is old enough to be able to give informed consent, and so long as there's no professional misuse of a power imbalance (teacher, therapist, doctor, etc), then I see people's revulsion at age gap relationships as ageism or some other bigotry.

Opinions?

When I was working in the New York art world, probably three-quarters of the men I worked with were gay. It was pretty common in that society to see age-gap relationships in which an older, established man would take up a kind of protégé. Or maybe a "protégé with benefits." I'm sure there were the requisite number of heartbreaks involved, but it was often a happy arrangement for both parties. 

Dan Savage (whatever happened to him?) used to talk about the "campground rule." Use it as you wish, but leave it better than you found it.

[zebo-the-fat]

My wife is 9 years younger than me, not a huge gap, but it did raise some comments when we were younger, as we both slip into senility it matters less and less!

[FrustratedFool]

Yes, I guess as people get older it becomes comparatively less of an issue.
But what the issue was even to begin with beats me.

[Gawdzilla Sama]

My wives average(d) 12 years younger than me. Maybe total coincidental, I dunno.

[brewer]

I don't always understand why two people are together (not only about age) and I do sometimes question motives. But when it comes down to it,...... it's none of my business, I don't need to understand, not my realtionship, not for me to judge.