If life is temporary, why is finding a date so HARD?

[Ahriman]

So boring.  Want to find a girl, go where there are girls.  That easy.  You can be a toxic piece of shit, won't matter.  College is like 2-1, or just take up yoga for fucks sake.

You're talking to someone well respected, even to someone like you probably, we would get along in real life. Everyone get's along with me it's weird.

Even women I get along with in casual settings,

Just making that dating connection requires a little bit of a different circuit in the brain I do not have. I've tried and I've been single for past 5 years or so and now I'm in my 30's I can't find anyone. It's really weird.

It's not easy. Some people are born different than those that think life is easy. That's just how it is. If you loose and arm you never have that arm back. If you're born one way, you may never be able to change certain things. Maybe I can maybe I won't be able to. Idk honestly. Life is temporary so it really doesn't matter. I'm glad it's temporary, to give us all a chance. Either this life or our next.

There won't be a next, which makes the fact that people don't get what they want all the more ridiculous.

[Angrboda]

I don't wonder why you're single. Maybe I just need to meet you in person.

[snow_wolf22]

I'm curious what ya'll think. I won't go into too much detail, but I'm curious. I'm not religious, so I would love to hear another persons opinion from someone that also isn't religious.

If life is temporary, and the human race as a whole is temporary (what I mean is, the sun eventually will go out, and extinct the human race), why would a dating partner be almost impossible to date? Don't you think women would be more generous? What's the purpose of natural selection in a temporary existence? Maybe this implies reincarnation, since life demands you give it your all and be the best of the best, then perhaps even if I don't in this life, then my next life I'll have a chance, or not that one, but eventually I'll have the good go around.

So maybe life always wants the best, life reincarnates us to get a chance. I don't believe in heaven or hell. I believe we either die permanently or we're reincarnated. But I feel like, as I stated above, that if women are as picky as they are, and hard to get, that life MUST be perpetual. I think nature is so intelligent, it not only gave us reason, it already "has" that reason, and it knows that life is unfair, so one day, we all will get fame. Those that have fame, will one day experience wanting that fame, and they'll never know they had it.

So then technically speaking, does it even matter at all not being able to find a date?

In a sense it feels like whether I'm loosing or winning, I'm always winning. But I always get a gentle reminder "dang this really sucks being single" or "dang this time around in this reincarnation of life is not a lucky one", because I watch other couples naturally getting it on, meanwhile in order for me to get there I have to put an amount of effort that surpasses those people that don't have to barely lift a finger or break a sweat to get what I have to work EXTREMELY hard to get.

To summarize.

If life is temporary, and given the above info I added to kinda support both sides of the argument, why would a women still, even still, be so HARD to date for some of us men? Given the fact that LIFE IS TEMPORARY. And let me put this into perspective. If you're running out of time for a task, you might get desperate and cut corners. When you think of how VAST the universe of existence is, and measure how little time we actually are alive for, there's practically no time "left" for the task of being alive, so why would a women even have the "time" to be selective and ONLY date a man that has maybe a nice jaw line, good muscles. What's the purpose? My focus is kinda here, by asking "What's the purpose"?

What if on the flip side, life "accidentally" made "life" demand natural selection be top priority. What if? Does that make sense. What if beauty was actually created on accident and it actually is a disease or something that we classify as normal, or something. I mean when you suffer so much rejection, your mind tends to wonder (like mine) in ALL directions.

I hope my post makes sense.
lol.

This is nothing but self pity on your part. When I was young, I was a klutz, a dork, pimple face with braces. I used to think "why don't girls like me?" The bottom line is nobody is obligated to be attracted to you, just like nobody was obligated to be attracted to me. But then I got older and wiser and now accept the problem wasn't them, the problem was me and how I felt about myself. 

I did get rejected, lots. But I also dated and was once married. it was when I accepted myself first others saw who I was. Rection happens to all of us, and that is simply part of life. 

"What if beauty was actually created on accident and it was actually a disease" You. 

On top of being an extremely disgusting statement it is also extremely ignorant. This longwinded pile of garbage is really your own self loathing. 

If you are secure with yourself first, it won't even matter if you are not dating at all.

These are not intended to be "disgusting". But thank you for your input.

Thank you for your other input as well.

I would not blame you for being you and not being attractive while you were looking the way you were and the type of person you were. I think everyone is beautiful exactly as they are and we all deserve love the love we want.

I do not agree the problem was you, I believe the problem is an issue beyond our control, and therefore a lack of understanding from the other parties that maybe you were actually very capable of being given the love you needed. I would factor in that to my equation that life is temporary and it would not matter for people to be soo picky to not choose you, in my opinion, is ignorant and lower minded on their behalf, nothing to do with you at all.

[snow_wolf22]

Maybe you're not looking for the right sex partners?

(not mad or anything) but I have made this clear it's not really about the S word. I'm just a chill person looking for another chill person to relax with really. Go relax in nature, garden maybe and stuff. Do a lot of DIY stuff I find on tiktok and stuff. I'm not doing a lot right now because it's boring single. I went off by myself and did that for a while, worst waste of money I ever spent all alone. Gross. Imagine waking up at some random beach ours from your house with the PERFECT beach front hotel, and no one next to you. Gross.

[arewethereyet]

Maybe you're not looking for the right sex partners?

(not mad or anything) but I have made this clear it's not really about the S word. I'm just a chill person looking for another chill person to relax with really. Go relax in nature, garden maybe and stuff. Do a lot of DIY stuff I find on tiktok and stuff. I'm not doing a lot right now because it's boring single. I went off by myself and did that for a while, worst waste of money I ever spent all alone. Gross. Imagine waking up at some random beach ours from your house with the PERFECT beach front hotel, and no one next to you. Gross.

A beach vacation alone sounds absolutely wonderful.

[Thumpalumpacus]

Maybe your sense of entitlement is precisely what women find unattractive in you.

I'm respected in real life so this is invalid. If you knew me you'd be wondering why I'm single.

If I knew you, I doubt I'd be wondering why you're alone, to judge from how you come across here.

If you're not being real here, can you blame me for not knowing you? Or if you are being real here, perhaps you might answer my point.

Either way, you can take my point or not, it's no big deal to me. You asked, you got an answer. Deal.

[Ahriman]

The dude's just not being honest with himself. He says it's not about sex but come the fuck on. Sex is very important. Guys want it, girls want it. You can't really go without it unless you're some demented freak like me.

[brewer]

@snow_wolf22 It's apparent that you believe that you are likeable and respected IRL but for me to believe it would take some evidence here, in this forum. So far I've not seen any evidence. IRL it would take third party perspective.

[FrustratedFool]

How are you going about trying to get a romantic partner?

[Nay_Sayer]

@snow_wolf22 My statement was to inform

I don't usually engage with underage people or trolls, I do make exceptions though.