Things You Regret

[No_God]

You're kidding....

[Clueless Morgan]

As a general regret, I regret not being more open to dating opportunities. It's a hard one for me to get over; I tend to hold men at arms length for a lot of reasons.

I probably need therapy.

[No_God]

I completely regret letting my kid see Frozen.

MAKE IT STAAAAAAAAAHP!

[RaisdCath]

Have anything you wish you had not done, or would change? It can be as small as puting the toilet paper the way your spouse doesn't like it, or as big as murdering 10,000 pink flamingos. Go!


I stole a baby goat once from its mamma.

Hmmmm.....as old as I am, I have only a few real regrets.
1. Marrying the person I did and marrying way way way too young.
2. Not accepting a full time position in Switzerland

Those are really it....but both were for sure....life changers.

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As a general regret, I regret not being more open to dating opportunities. It's a hard one for me to get over; I tend to hold men at arms length for a lot of reasons.

I probably need therapy.

Morgan,

I don't know your age...but keeping men at arms length is a superb idea!
Having many boyfriends (that is to say friends who are men) is a wonderful idea.
Anyone who legally marries at less than 40 or so years of age is nuts.

[Losty]

I regret eating that brownie with mint chocolate chip ice cream on it last night.

[Clueless Morgan]

Morgan,

I don't know your age...but keeping men at arms length is a superb idea!
Having many boyfriends (that is to say friends who are men) is a wonderful idea.
Anyone who legally marries at less than 40 or so years of age is nuts.

My issues stem from many places including intimacy issues, major anxieties about sex, specifically pregnancy (like major anxiety), and the vestiges of some pretty bad teasing about a childhood "boyfriend" I had in preschool that leads me to be very standoffish and anxious when it comes to even considering starting a relationship.

My regret stems from the fact that I feel stunted and embarrassingly inexperienced when it comes to relationships, which creates something of a positive feedback loop - can't start a relationship because I'll have to tell people about it, thus opening myself up to potential teasing (a fear I really shouldn't have anymore but I do), and I don't want to start a relationship because then the guy will see how much of a neurotic freak I am about them and how embarrassingly inexperienced I am at them, but I won't get better at them unless I'm in one. Hence the probable need for therapy.

But it hasn't been a big problem since I (almost) never meet any guys I'm romantically interested in anyway, or ones who are romantically interested in me.

And getting married also isn't a problem as I would seriously worry about a guy who would want to marry me - and the thought of getting married makes me anxious since there isn't an easy way out of a marriage and I need to easy out to even begin to feel okay.

[RaisdCath]

Morgan,

I don't know your age...but keeping men at arms length is a superb idea!
Having many boyfriends (that is to say friends who are men) is a wonderful idea.
Anyone who legally marries at less than 40 or so years of age is nuts.

My issues stem from many places including intimacy issues, major anxieties about sex, specifically pregnancy (like major anxiety), and the vestiges of some pretty bad teasing about a childhood "boyfriend" I had in preschool that leads me to be very standoffish and anxious when it comes to even considering starting a relationship.

My regret stems from the fact that I feel stunted and embarrassingly inexperienced when it comes to relationships, which creates something of a positive feedback loop - can't start a relationship because I'll have to tell people about it, thus opening myself up to potential teasing (a fear I really shouldn't have anymore but I do), and I don't want to start a relationship because then the guy will see how much of a neurotic freak I am about them and how embarrassingly inexperienced I am at them, but I won't get better at them unless I'm in one. Hence the probable need for therapy.

But it hasn't been a big problem since I (almost) never meet any guys I'm romantically interested in anyway, or ones who are romantically interested in me.

And getting married also isn't a problem as I would seriously worry about a guy who would want to marry me - and the thought of getting married makes me anxious since there isn't an easy way out of a marriage and I need to easy out to even begin to feel okay.

In my very humble and naïve opinion, you sure as heck don't need therapy!!

How about (in your own mind) defining exactly what you mean by "relationship". You seem to be most worried about a) what others will think, and b) romance.

How about joining a local group of some kind that isn't set up to promote "romance"....like a book club, a local free thought group, a golf group (if you don't play, good time to learn....and you'll never know the real innards of a guy until you see his reaction to slicing his tee shot into the water!!), volunteer at a local organization (like a library)....in short...find association, then friendship....then and only then, romance.
By that time....the romance part will be both easy and natural.

Believe me....I've been through it!

You're gonna do fine!

[Marsellus Wallace]

I regret that I never went to the gem , i'm planning to do so this summer

[Clueless Morgan]

In my very humble and naïve opinion, you sure as heck don't need therapy!!

That's one bonus of being reasonably self-aware and have a decent idea of where my problems stem from.

You seem to be most worried about a) what others will think

Yes. The teasing I endured in my childhood happened 1) in the formative years when I was learning right from wrong behavior and that I really didn't enjoy being teased or embarrassed, and 2) lasted long into my teens making for damn sure I knew the potential consequences if I ever had a boyfriend. As a result, I either never said yes when I was asked out, or kept my activities secret for fear of what would come of it if anyone in my family found out.

Like I said, it's not something I should worry about anymore, but I do. Kind of like people who have given up religion but still have that nagging anxiety about hell. It's not rational but it's still there.

and b) romance.

Puke.

[MJ the Skeptical]

I want to go full eternal sunshine of the spotless mind on my brain from all the regret I have. Mostly from social situations, missed opportunities, wrong decisions.