Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past

[Anomalocaris]

He reminded me of this advertisement.

It depends on the stretch marks on the other side.

[Minimalist]

Stretch marks on an Aston-Martin?

[pablo628]

Same name same post on TTA.

[Exian]

I'll say one thing about the "shit-n-runs", they usually rack up the page count pretty fast. And most evolve into intelligent conversation. Maybe that's the key to a good thread: Say some dumb shit.

[pocaracas]

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My girlfriend and I were watching some romantic comedy the other day (not my idea, trust me), and the topic of sexual history came up. So we ended up talking about it, and it turns out that she's got quite a past.

She's 27 and here is just some of what she told me...

Her first time was when she was 17
When I asked her how many men she's had sex with she couldn't tell me but when I asked if it was over 20 (jokingly) she said oh yes, way more
The first time she did anal was at the age of 18
She has had a threesome on 3 separate occasions
She has kissed girls in clubs many times
She was a member of fetlife for a couple of years
She mentioned something about doing porn

Those are the highlights but she mentioned quite a lot of other occasions and people.

This is not OK. I've been with her for 3 years and I had no idea about any of this. I always had a feeling about her but I really didn't think it was like this. This is a huge shock to me and what bothers me is that I've invested 3 years of my life with someone whose values and mine most certainly do not gel.

I don't really want to break up with her, but at the same time I can't imagine staying with her and being OK with this. It's going to nag away at me, I know it. I'm a firm believer that her sexual history has a lot to do with the ability to pair bond (or should I say, the inability), and I have seen enough evidence of this with my friends and their girlfriends to confirm it.

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I hate to think about it as 3 years is a long time, but I guess I probably will be finishing with her, at least that's how I'm feeling right now. But I just want to get people's opinions, for what it's worth.

That is so dumb... -.-'
Send her my way! I'll take good care of her for you.

[MJ the Skeptical]

It's her past, and her business.  The fact that she trusted you enough to tell you those things, then you turn around and join a discussion forum just to slut-shame her tells me all I need to know.  Dump her.  She doesn't deserve your revulsion.

And it's his choice to whether he wants to be with a promiscuous girl or not and you shouldn't shame him for that either, don't be a hypocrite.

But I see there are many hypocrites with you who thumbed up your post.

[SteelCurtain]

It's her past, and her business.  The fact that she trusted you enough to tell you those things, then you turn around and join a discussion forum just to slut-shame her tells me all I need to know.  Dump her.  She doesn't deserve your revulsion.

And it's his choice to whether he wants to be with a promiscuous girl or not and you shouldn't shame him for that either, don't be a hypocrite.

But I see there are many hypocrites with you who thumbed up your post.

Oh boy. You just bend reality to fit in your nice little box, huh?

We're not shaming him for not wanting a 'promiscuous' girl. We're shaming him for trying to make this girl out to be a bad person on the internet to a bunch of strangers.

It's a troll post, anyhow.

[Alex K]

What's your Problem, Godslayer?
If someone is so keen on having a virtual virgin as a partner, they should have asked before the 3 year mark, you know... But, someone has to stand up for the trolls, I guess...

[MJ the Skeptical]

And it's his choice to whether he wants to be with a promiscuous girl or not and you shouldn't shame him for that either, don't be a hypocrite.
But I see there are many hypocrites with you who thumbed up your post.

Oh boy. You just bend reality to fit in your nice little box, huh?
We're not shaming him for not wanting a 'promiscuous' girl. We're shaming him for trying to make this girl out to be a bad person on the internet to a bunch of strangers.
It's a troll post, anyhow.

Well if it's a troll post, my bad. But if he doesn't want to date her because of how many guys she's fucked, who the fuck are you to shame him? it's his preference, and why you people are hypocrites for not realizing that he has as much right to like what he likes as the girl who gets around that you are defending.

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What's your Problem, Godslayer?
If someone is so keen on having a virtual virgin as a partner, they should have  asked before the 3 year mark, you know... But, someone has to stand up for the trolls, I guess...

I had no idea he was a troll but what does that matter? I'm not asking for a virgin, just someone around my experience level. Why is that some crime? fuck off.

[Alex K]

I had no idea he was a troll but what does that matter? I'm not asking for a virgin, just someone around my experience level. Why is that some crime? fuck off

Why do you think that anyone here wants to deny you that?