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[TheRocketSurgeon]

TRS, I still have/wear my blue rims. They are awesome to work out in.

I still have a whole bunch of my Academy garb. The ringer tees are my favorite; wish I'd kept more of them.

[Thumpalumpacus]

Nah, I'm not offended. And I'm hardly the Dark Mistress - I'm a sub through and through, and while I enjoy pain I also spent a good portion of the weekend cuddled and having my hair and skin stroked. It's not all pain - there's a lot of deference and love involved.

There are a lot of misconceptions about what goes on in BDSM - and books like 50 Shades and or shows like CSI don't do much to dispel it. Yes, a lot of it is very darkly erotic, sharp as bitter chocolate, but a lot of it is also incredibly intimate and soothing.

The thrill comes from being with someone who instinctively knows how to get into your head and do things to you that manipulate you to greater sexual heights. It's like when people seek spicy foods - they like the kiss of pain that comes with it. Or people who enjoy horror movies or haunted houses - they love the adrenal response to fear. BDSM uses both. Pain makes nerves sing - they become super sensitive and a following pleasurable touch becomes all that much more because of it, or they cause your body to release the hormones that help you deal with pain, and you can end up in a euphoria, like a long-distances runner.

There is a lot of mental work you have to do to engage in it in a healthy and positive way. There have been a couple studies suggesting that those who engage in those sorts of things have much better organized emotional faculties - I suspect because they practice variations of mindfulness, over-communication, and compartmentalization.

It's fun to scare "vanilla" people with the shock and spectacle aspects of it, but only because they *like* it - the same way you might enjoy something dangerous, but brief. They get their taste and move on. Most of us are terribly normal, though, for the most part. I'd much rather make people laugh than frighten them.

If you haven't already, you ought to take up writing. You not only convey your message clearly, you do so with lovely imagery and a fine sense of simile.

[SteelCurtain]

Kitan is thirsty tonight!

It's called being a male under 75 years old, and simultaneously conscious. Hehe.

Seriously, I've never minded if gay guys flirt because I like to flirt with females, even ones who'd never be interested in me, even ones I'd never be interested in, myself... and it seems no different to me to have a gay guy do it to me or vice-versa. I'm happy to be a contributor to the safe environment in which he can express what every (straight) other guy seems to take as his inherent birthright of sexual expression.

I'm actually way more flattered when gay guys hit on me. Girls can be less obvious about it. Guys are pretty straightforward. I am so aloof most of the time, I don't pick up on it. My girlfriend actually got jealous at a friends get together the other week. A guy was flirting with me, and I guess I was flirting back. Started a mini turf war...

[RobbyPants]

I decided it was time to shave the beard, but decided to have a bit of fun, first.

19th century?



70s?

[Losty]

Omg Rob, you're adorable! Kind of sad to see your facial hair go though. Which is funny because generally I don't really love facial hair. Well...you're sexy either way

[Edwardo Piet]

Epic!

[Edwardo Piet]

Omg Rob, you're adorable! Kind of sad to see your facial hair go though. Which is funny because generally I don't really love facial hair. Well...you're sexy either way

*immediately considers shaving and posting a new pic*

[Losty]

Omg Rob, you're adorable! Kind of sad to see your facial hair go though. Which is funny because generally I don't really love facial hair. Well...you're sexy either way

*immediately considers shaving and posting a new pic*

Lol you're already hot.

[thesummerqueen]

I already understood all of that, but thank you for sharing it with me (really!) so candidly. 

I didn't want to assume, but also I take every chance I get to explain the concept to bystanders. You may or may not have any idea of how fucked up some people are about it.

As I said, I was mostly just trying to slide you a sideways compliment because I do think you are astoundingly attractive... even though I know that (were I single and nearby, and you were actually interested, for the sake of argument) it would be psychologically impossible for either of us to provide the other with the type of gratification they would need to be happy. I'm okay with that. Mostly. 

BLUSHING

I mean, I'm capable of vanilla sex for a time or 10.

This is me a couple of weeks ago:

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You remind me of why I love older men. mmmph.

If you haven't already, you ought to take up writing. You not only convey your message clearly, you do so with lovely imagery and a fine sense of simile.

Alas, I am a good conversationalist, a passable essayist, and a terrible blogger/any-other-kind-of-writer.

I decided it was time to shave the beard, but decided to have a bit of fun, first.

19th century?

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I would dress up in Victorian clothing for you. Just saying.

[RobbyPants]

Omg Rob, you're adorable! Kind of sad to see your facial hair go though. Which is funny because generally I don't really love facial hair. Well...you're sexy either way

Yeah, given the drastic nature of the change, I'm not sure I like how I look without the beard. I had it for about 10 months.

Thank you.

I decided it was time to shave the beard, but decided to have a bit of fun, first.

19th century?

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I would dress up in Victorian clothing for you. Just saying.

I've been getting increasingly interested in steampunk cosplay, recently. Just this morning, I told someone I'd have to do that with my facial hair if I actually started doing it.