RE: "The Lord has redeemed all of us, all of us..." should we be grateful?
July 20, 2015 at 7:52 pm
Quote:"Could you clarify" and "are you saying ____ ?" is just me trying to further understand someone's position. The latter is not meant to be a misrepresentation, that's why it's a question. So the other person can either confirm or deny.
One of the tricks I learned from a lawyer I worked for in my union days was that anytime I had a verbal discussion with a manager was to follow it up with a written letter ( or later e-mail ) recapping the conversation and my understanding of what they said. And it always invited them to correct any misunderstandings. This had the effect of memorializing the conversation and making it "evidence" if they did not reply OR force them to clarify the remark they made.
Guess what? They ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY HATED IT when I did that because their lawyers told them what I was doing. But it didn't matter because once the conversation is reduced to writing they couldn't lie about it any more and they lied as second nature if given a chance. I of course did not give a rat's ass if they liked me or not. In fact, politically it helped to be seen as an enemy of the management but you may find that technique less effective here.