Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?

[Salacious B. Crumb]

Truth or Love?

I feel I could go through life, content, without experiencing love. Of course, I’d need some friendships or acquaintances, but I don’t feel I’d need love. Love, of course, is a great thing, but it can make your life miserable, as well. I’d rather have truth, than someone pretending to love me for whatever reason. I’d rather have someone be brutally honest with me, as often as possible, as opposed to someone talking about me behind my back. I’d want to hear feedback how I could be a better person, rather than false love, like.. when people tell you that you’re amazing, but you really aren’t. They want you to hear that, in order to use you in some way. It happens too often.

I think it’s a problem, when people don’t hear the truth enough. Everyone is worried about hurting everyone else’s feelings or being politically correct, instead of trying to point out each other’s mistakes. I don’t think life should revolve around that, but when someone is doing something wrong over and over again to someone, or to multiple people, they need to hear it. Some people are narcissistic, but many people are decent, and will want to change to be a better person, so they can get along with whomever, better than before. Being kind and truthful to one another, plus common interests, and other positive personality traits, can lead to love. I don’t think that you have love without truth, not in my definition anyway.

Truth or Love.. What’s more important, and why? Force yourself to think about it, and don’t say both are equally important.

The way you are describing things, it seems to me you are comparing truth with a false love, or in other words, not with love at all.  Who wouldn't rather have truth than a false, pretend love?

If you now tell me, but wait, I stated "I don’t think that you have love without truth, not in my definition anyway", you also stated, "Truth or Love.. What’s more important, and why? Force yourself to think about it, and don’t say both are equally important."

You seem to be setting things up so that we are supposed to choose between truth and love, but cannot choose both, and love requires truth.  In other words, you are insisting that we do not choose love, because choosing love is choosing both.

I can see what you’re saying there, and you make a valid point, but I also said that I’m content going through life having friends, but not necessarily needing love (or unconditional love or ‘true love’… it can be more of a bonus). I feel, I could make it with a job to support myself, have some friends that are respectful enough to give me the truth, and just enjoy nature, and be at peace. I do well alone, most of the time, and the people that I do encounter, I’d like to be more honest with me, than show me an unconditional love. There are plenty of people out there, and many can show me kindness, but, first, I’d rather have truth from them.

I may have delved too much into an example of false love, thanks for being truthful with me.