(July 24, 2015 at 5:00 am)robvalue Wrote: ...
I've never been someone that females naturally gravitate towards, and I've never sought to change that by changing myself. What I mean by that is I don't look at others and say, "Wow, he's getting some attention because of [reasons], I'll try that!" I want someone to like me for me, or not at all. Of course I'm naturally going to change over time, but I wasn't going to do things just to get more attention.
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I do not think this is applicable to you (far from it), but someone who is disliked by women because he is a total ass should change. Not to please women, but because one should not be a total ass.
So I don't think everyone should exactly follow your example, but I do pretty well agree with what you are saying and think that people should do something quite similar to what you did, if they are wanting to be married or its equivalent. There is not a lot of point in attracting people under false pretenses if one is wanting a permanent relationship, unless one plans on living the lie. Otherwise, when the truth comes out, it will be a problem. It would not be good to be married to someone who regrets the marriage.
"A wise man ... proportions his belief to the evidence."
— David Hume, An Enquiry Concerning Human Understanding, Section X, Part I.
