(August 29, 2015 at 2:12 am)KevinM1 Wrote: EP, did you not read Sal's first post? He moved out and is currently, temporarily living with his grandmother. He wants to find a job in order to actually be on his own, but has knee and back problems in addition to colitis, and panic attacks which stem directly from his father's bullshit, so he knows his options are limited. And, finally, this thread's stated purpose is for him to vent. To express his frustrations so he DOESN'T wallow in them in real life.
So, it's not like Sal hasn't taken steps to address his situation. Furthermore, stepping back and becoming emotionally detached from a situation is far easier said than done, to the point where that 'advice' (a term which can only be used in the loosest sense in this case) as well as your assessment that he's blowing things out of proportion are trite, callous, and miss the mark completely.
Everyone is different. They have different thresholds regarding how much pain - physical or emotional - they can handle. Telling someone to simply toughen up is purely dismissive, and if that's how you're going to be, perhaps you should simply remain silent, because you're not helping.
I don't agree that everyone is very different in this regard. Toughening up can never hurt. Being a pussy might though and disastrously so. This world wasn't made for crybabies, like it or not. Now I am sympathetic but I am actually trying to help him. He's either not telling the whole truth here or he likes his current situation. That's my take on it, like it or not. As I said though, I come from a good place and truly understand what he's going through. I went through this kind of thing and know what it's like. I have far more to help him with than any of you do, apparently. All he needs to do is take my advice.
