RE: Need to Vent - Thanks Religious Assholes
August 30, 2015 at 11:52 pm
(This post was last modified: August 30, 2015 at 11:58 pm by Salacious B. Crumb.)
(August 30, 2015 at 1:14 pm)Deidre32 Wrote:(August 30, 2015 at 1:04 pm)Salacious B. Crumb Wrote: Thank you DeidreSorry to hear about your dad (what's with the goofball dads? Lots of them on here) Parents have a hard time of accepting that you're not a kid anymore, and need to force their way of thinking onto you. I know it can be annoying. I'm trying to move on. Now that I'm away from the house, the last thing that you wrote is what I need to work on, and I think I'll be a much happier person.
YW. That part is hard, but with effort, you will rise above it all. The challenge with situations such as these, is that it's affected my romantic relationships with men. I have a hard time trusting that the men won't 'turn into my dad.' So, everything starts off great, and somewhere along the way...when things get more serious, I break away in fear. I'm working on that though. See, I can blame my father for all of that, but it's really up to me, now. It's up to you as well, to live the life of YOUR choosing. And it will be great.
I feel it's affected many potential relationships that I could have had. I haven't had many at all, because I didn't want to bring anyone home to my house, because I was too scared what my dad would say to them. I was also just embarrassed by him in general, because he is a little "out there". He'd want to start talking politics right off the bat or start telling everyone his wild theories when first meeting people. His mental abuse, made me feel way less confident too, but I feel a lot more confident, and more of myself now, that I'm away from him. I feel that he doesn't even really know me, although he likes to say that he knows me better than I know me, but I almost never could be myself around him. Any humor on my part would be shut down constantly by him saying that he's not in the mood, or he can't be happy for whatever stupid reason. But, the rare times he feels like joking around, he's mad that we're not getting in a goofy mood with him. I don't think he'll ever see what he does.
Same here, I can change now, and not blame my father for the way I am, because I can be who I want to be now. I hope you can work through your fear, there's many good guys out there. Don't break off things until they go bad, not before, because they may never go bad.
Easier said than done though, I'm sure. BTW, love your avatar.
Anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that 'my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.' -Isaac Asimov-
