(October 11, 2015 at 9:58 am)ponhei9502 Wrote: mind the sarcasm.
Just had to quote that part... you're gonna fit right in, here.
I don't have much advice to offer you, I'm afraid, other than what was already offered. Don't lose your trust in her simply because she's in an emotionally-vulnerable place. Just be supportive... sometimes, people have to come before ideologies. Love her a little more than usual, and be there for her. In time she will see their manipulation for what it is, most likely, and will see that you didn't try to push things on her when she was in a vulnerable place. On the other hand, if she goes "full braindead" on the faith-tradition of her youth, there's not much you can do except to let her decide if she is willing to fight against that indoctrination to be with you... or not. If not, then she is doing you a favor by showing you that you're not as important to her as her own family, and in which case, why would you want to make a new family with her?
That's not to say it won't be emotionally traumatizing and painful for you to let go of your hopes for this relationship, when the time comes, but don't surrender in-advance.
Good luck! You're going to have to be very strong.
A Christian told me: if you were saved you cant lose your salvation. you're sealed with the Holy Ghost
I replied: Can I refuse? Because I find the entire concept of vicarious blood sacrifice atonement to be morally abhorrent, the concept of holding flawed creatures permanently accountable for social misbehaviors and thought crimes to be morally abhorrent, and the concept of calling something "free" when it comes with the strings of subjugation and obedience perhaps the most morally abhorrent of all... and that's without even going into the history of justifying genocide, slavery, rape, misogyny, religious intolerance, and suppression of free speech which has been attributed by your own scriptures to your deity. I want a refund. I would burn happily rather than serve the monster you profess to love.
I replied: Can I refuse? Because I find the entire concept of vicarious blood sacrifice atonement to be morally abhorrent, the concept of holding flawed creatures permanently accountable for social misbehaviors and thought crimes to be morally abhorrent, and the concept of calling something "free" when it comes with the strings of subjugation and obedience perhaps the most morally abhorrent of all... and that's without even going into the history of justifying genocide, slavery, rape, misogyny, religious intolerance, and suppression of free speech which has been attributed by your own scriptures to your deity. I want a refund. I would burn happily rather than serve the monster you profess to love.
