(October 11, 2015 at 10:07 am)Napoléon Wrote: Guess you have to cross the bridge when you come to it. If I were in your shoes I'd just wait and see if she is really going full retard into Islam. If so, I'd have to at some point let her know my own thoughts on the matter.
Then the choice is really hers. Does she value you over religion. Are you fine if she doesn't? Are you willing to accept 'converting' in order to marry her? Are you comfortable with her beliefs and her submission to her parents?
Tough questions but they aren't going to just suddenly disappear unless this is just a phase she's going through. Doesn't sound like it is, but time will ultimately tell.
(October 11, 2015 at 10:07 am)mh.brewer Wrote: Welcome.
This just happened within the last couple of days. With the raw emotions of a recent death attached. You need to give this more time and then reassess the situation.
I'm pretty sure youre both right in that only time will tell. Its still very fresh. Hearing her reaction and seeing her afterwards was fairly telling though.
I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure I could hear her previous defences and willpower crack through the walls when I heard her apologise and promise to invest in Islam. Worst case scenario and she really did crack and goes through with it all, got any advice?
The fact that she did crack makes me paranoid about what she might give into in the future. I honestly don't know if I'm comfortable with that, knowing what the quran says about atheism. Obviously there are a lot of factors that could change this scenario. However different opinions and experiences does help.
I'd rather prepare for the worst than not be prepared for the worst if it does happen.
