Feeling pretty gutted

[Rhondazvous]

Your sister sounds like a bitch you need to slap across the face really hard.

She is a bitch.  I'd love to slap her.  But that's just what she wants.
She wants to be able to tell people that I'm "abusive" if she can succeed in pushing me beyond my limits.

It's very important that I not lose my temper.

Hey sister. You know you have my absolute support and love. I just saw this thread and it seems like we have had some of the same experiences. I haven’t read all 7 pages and can’t really offer more than shot in the dark advice without knowing more about what’s going on.

However, on reading this, I had to say something. My sister is bipolar. there have been times when she and others have tried to do the same thing your sister is doing—make me feel isolated, like she can do what she wants but if I so much as raise an eyebrow or wiggle my nose everybody will blame me and be on her side against me.

Your sister knows you. She knows what your fears are. She’s willing to play k on her insecurities. Only you can change that and play on hers. When I was a kid, if I didn’t want to do what my father told me. He would say “Well it looks like I have to be the bad guy today.” That gave me pause. He wasn’t afraid to be seen as the bad guy. When my niece and nephew didn’t want to do what I said, I’d get my belt and tell them, “You have five. One, two…” My sister would tell me I’m too quick with the belt. Because I had that reputation, I never had to actually hit them and they never let me get to give.

My father was a mental health counselor and I know he would not have tried to give you advice without knowing more about your situation, like what is holding you back? Who are these “innocent parties” who will be hurt if you cut your sister off and why do you feel responsible for them? Have you asked yourself that? Maybe they’re waiting for you to be the strong one and will follow suit. Why are you trying so hard to earn other people’s respect but don’t require them to do shit to earn yours?