(October 30, 2015 at 1:22 pm)Chad32 Wrote: People taking advantage of me when I do them favors that I really don't have to. Some people in my neighborhood don't have cars for some reason, but if I drive them somewhere they'll eventually start coming around every other day wanting to go somewhere, whether they have money or not.
At worst a couple of people thta I've let into my house for one reason or another had stolen something of mine because I'm not watching them like a hawk.
Being nicer to people than I have to be, and getting stabbed in the back, is what pisses me off the most. One thing used to be harrassment from people in my daily life that I can't avoid, but that pretty much ended after highschool. Except in the case of my dad.
It sounds like you might be a people pleaser. That's just an offhand observation of course. Just based on what you've said. If you change your behaviors, you might find that's a better way to deal with your anger.
When people ask you for a ride, do you ever say no? If/When you say no, how do you say it? Does it stick? Or do they continue asking for the ride until you give in? You might want to try setting a limit for how much you're willing to help people with rides. Remember that your time is worth as much as theirs, and to you your time is worth MORE than theirs. Remember that you don't have to help people out if you don't want to. There's nothing wrong with saying no. No is a good word.
If people are stealing your stuff, you might consider not inviting those people to your house. I'm not sure if you live alone, but if others invite people over that steal your stuff, you might want to bring it up with whoever did invite them over. You want to wait until you've calmed down to do that though, because it can come across as confrontational. Make sure you stand up for yourself. If you aren't, that anger is going to build up inside.
