Why so many "anti-feminists" in the atheist community?

[Edwardo Piet]

You you know why I get so frustrated with you? Let's get off this exhausting armchair psychologist shtick you're on.

I wasn't being a psychologist I was giving my opinon based on my own observations.

Maybe if you could do the same without insulting people the atmosphere wouldn't be so shit when you're around.

Everyone in this thread is an asshole, dealing with you people is nothing like I have delt with before on the internet.

It's simply not true that everyone on this thread is an asshole.

Yeah, you don't have to act like you know me, but I have emotions and I'm not always a happy guy.

I know that. I understand that. I don't hate you, I'm sorry I frustrate you, I really am. Not an ounce of sarcasm there. I mean it - really. I would still be trying to help you if I wasn't so disgusted about something you said to someone I care about.

You know what you people have done though? Degraded me, tried to make me feel like shit.

If you were degraded at all it was unintentional. The people here have good intentions. They are not assholes. Please stop insulting people so explicitly and obviously, that is clearly offensive. The fact you interpret some people's intentions in such a way as to see them as degrading you, is in no way of the same caliber of offense as when you go out of your way to be clearly and explicitly insulting.

It's worked a couple times, I hope you can all have yourselves a good time over that.

That's not what we're here for. People are not here to degrade. Please try to interpret people's intentions more positively regardless of what they say unless they're being explicitly insulting and offensive like yourself - But even then, when you do it yourself it makes no sense to expect to get special treatment - I mean, that's what the rules are here for. They can be applied when something obvious has been violated. When it's really vague and subjective and open to interpretation it is not only hard to enforce rules on those matters but it is a waste of time to do so because: First of all everyone interprets vague subjective matters differently when it comes to intentions and the like and, second of all: It's really not worth getting so pissed about shit that can be interpreted in a positive way as much as easily as a negative way. Please stop getting yourself riled up by expecting the worst from people and interpreting the worst in people. It's not healthy and you could just as easily interpret people as having good intentions, so why not do so? Why hurt both yourself and others with negative interpretations of people?

Sometimes you have to be a cynic about cynics. Sure sometimes people are manipulative assholes, but when it comes to cynics who think everyone is like that - I'd question them at least as much as the naive people who think all intentions are innocent. Find the balance, interpret positively when it's an unclear subjective matter. If someone isn't threat you and is unable to betray you or harm you in some serious way - why automatically distrust them in a cynical way just to be careful? Be careful of what? When it's just discussion on a forum, why not just see the good in people as much as you are able to? And if you say you are already doing that, you really aren't trying as hard as you could be on seeing the good in people. Seriously. You can do it. You can see better in people. Please.

I am saying you can, will you ever do so? I don't know if you ever will. But I do think you are capable. Most people are at least capable of seeing the good in people if they try.

TL;DR: Try to see the good in people and stop interpreting everyone's intentions as negative. Sometimes cynicism is unhealthy.