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My heart is breaking... I thought Christians are suppose to love "unconditionally"
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RE: My heart is breaking... I thought Christians are suppose to love "uncondition...
(December 29, 2015 at 11:24 am)kmthang Wrote: I've been a strong christian for most of my life but until two months ago. I have my reasons for becoming an atheist but I swear that I don't hate 'God' or any gods.

Atheists don't "hate" gods. As an atheist, I find it hard to hate something that doesn't exist.


Quote:Even though I turned to an atheist I still keep a lot of wisdoms and lessons I learned from the Bible.  I consider myself a kind, humble, nice, funny, non-judgmental.

You can be all of those things without religious involvement.

Quote: The very last time I met with my gf, she didn't kiss me anymore. She didn't even want to touch me anymore... or even had a hard time letting me hold her hand. This really broke my heart even though I didn't tell her.

Are you sure she isn't cheating? This could be a sign of that. If not, then her judgemental attitude towards you isn't going to change.

Quote: In our case, all I want from her is to respect my lack of belief.

Good luck with that. Many Christians think we are the spawn of Satan, even though he, too, is imaginary. Her pushing you away is a strong indicator of her disapproval of your awakening to the falsehood of religion.

Quote: If you're a female and your bf becomes an atheist (friendly), what do you want from him to keep your relationship besides forcing him to be a believer again?

What are my options? Give me some ideas...

I just can't imagine living a life without seeing her beautiful face smiling for me but for someone else :'(

Thanks

She can no more force you to believe than you can force her to not believe. At the end of the day, you have to decide whether or not being with a believer is going to be more problematic than not. Your own mental health is worth far more than what you'll ever get out of being in a relationship with someone who doesn't share the same views about religion as you do. If constant questioning and mental mind fuckery caused by the differences in your views is what you want, by all means, keep trying. If not, start looking for greener pastures my friend.

I don't know your age, but if this is your first serious relationship, use the experience and knowledge you've gained from it and look for someone who's views align more closely with your own.
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RE: My heart is breaking... I thought Christians are suppose to love "uncondition... - by Joods - December 29, 2015 at 11:57 am

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