What is 'objective' value?

[robvalue]

I think of it this way: teaching them how to think is education, teaching them what to think is brainwashing.

There will always be some sort of conflict, and things they need to know that they cannot yet understand. The way I would do it is that you should only teach "as fact" that which they will later understand the reasoning behind, and which they cannot do without the knowledge of at that point. Otherwise, you should generally be able to explain the reasoning behind everything you teach them.

Regarding this matter, I'd be more concerned with educating parents to spot a child who doesn't have empathy as early as possible, so as to have the best chance of helping them appropriately. I'd prefer this to trying to impose dogmatic thinking on everyone just in case they turn out a certain way. I think on the whole parents do teach their children to respect life, but telling them to just accept it and that it's a universal fact would not be productive in my opinion. I may not be understanding your approach properly, however.

Even a psycopath can appeal to their children's empathy, without having to bring their own feelings into it. Maybe when they are old enough to understand, the personal conflict can be explained.