Gay, Catholic and Doing Fine

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Thanks for your answer CL

Well, if your kid turns out gay but wants to follow the same beliefs as you, that means it will never be able to have sex? Is that right?

Im glad to hear you will love them above everything else. I didn't doubt that. My concern is that telling them you think gay sex is "immoral" would be sending mixed messages. And not just you, but the whole Catholic Church in general, would have this opinion of them, and the only other option is celebacy. Since the latter is wholly unrealistic, they are bound to feel shame having to go against catholic teachings every time they want to have sex.

The only other thing is to not be Catholic, but that still won't change your opinion of what they do. So I'm wondering how you will put all this, so as to make your true intentions clear. Even if you don't say any of this explicitly, they are bound to figure it out from Catholic teachings.

I'm not trying to be difficult, I'm genuinely concerned about what might happen in such a very plausible scenario. If I put myself in their shoes, even given the lovely person that you are, I could see myself not coming out or even denying my sexuality. I'm trying to see how this could be avoided.