(February 8, 2016 at 3:16 pm)Thena323 Wrote:(February 8, 2016 at 11:02 am)Drich Wrote:
I can certainly understand how having parents with extremely different traditions and views of the world overall, could cause a child to feel conflicted/ confused at the prospect of having to 'choose sides'. Especially if the parents can't be bothered to talk to their children, or come to a basic consensus on how raise them.
I don't feel that parents from what could essentially be considered the same background/culture, who also happen to be of different races are necessarily presenting their children with the same dilemma. It's unfair to assume that these people are selfish and just want to be different, or assume that their offspring feel pressured to somehow pick a side; especially in this current day and age. Being mixed race and/or appearing racially ambiguous isn't all that unusual or uncommon it used to be. It's not necessarily the isolating experience, you found it to be x amount of years ago.
Not certain why you feel that it's crucial for people to to share the same physical characteristics in order to relate one another. Being of the same race is ONE of countless commonalities and shared experiences that allow people to relate to each other on some level.
The point your missing is the child(ern) Don't grow up as being apart of a people or community. Yes their may be others with the same racial mix, but no sense of community or belonging. we have 'antidotes' or common stories/experiences , but no sense of community.
To take that from a child or to assume one is able to provide this basic form of identify or worse yet not even think about it is indeed selfish! The parents wants, userpt the childs needs, how is that not selfish?
Look at your response. You could not point to a social structure equivalent to the self identification say black people have with other black people or whites with whites. You pointed to "It's not as rare as it use to be." Your comparing the right of hundreds of thousands of years of basic self identification, against it's not as rare as it use to be.
Again as a child this matters because all higher functioning social activity first starts along racial lines. The first division is gender, then instinctively we subdivide by race. If we didn't this question that started this tread would be a non issue.
I mean how many threads have you seen asking "What does God say about White people marrying other white people?"