"I may be fat, but I beat my eating disorder"

[Aroura]

I dislike the fat acceptance movement mostly because it seems to encourage extreme obesity.
The girl in that pic is not at a terribly unhealthy weight, though. Not fat.

And yes, people can be concerened about strangers health without being all judgmental at the same time. In the US at least, everyone knows someone or is related to someone who is full on obese, and probably a fair few who are not obese but still very overweight. It is called empathy, and every time I see a kid who weighs more than I do, I feel like crying because I know that kid is going to have a life full of problems and it actually makes me very sad. An adult person who is so obese they cannot walk properly is just as like to bring tears to my eyes, because it reminds me of my brother, who I fear for greatly because he is so obese. His knees are both shot, and he is pre-diabetic already. My hubby has put a LOT on around the middle since I married him. I still love him just the same, but now I worry about his health more, because he sneaks candy and ice cream all the time, and he can't seem to stop. I don't want to lose him!

And I know that obese stranger I see has loved ones who feel the same way I do about my brother and my husband. If you don't think other humans have empathy for you, and just want to bully you or hate you, perhaps you are projecting.

It is an extremely complicated issue. Being underweight is no good for your health, but anorexia is rare compared to obesity, which is also terrible for your health. So why do we call one an eating disorder and feel free to encourage them to get professional help, while we are some kind of bully monsters if we do the exact same thing for the other?

If you are fat, I'll still love you for the person you are. But I will also encourage you to chose a healthier life style so I can keep loving you longer. I myself struggle constantly with being underweight, and I am not offended when my husband encourages me to finish my meal and stop picking at it, or brings me a pack of protein shakes as part of a valentines day gift *that actually happened). Even if it IS caused by a psychological disorder, then go get help for the underlying cause. Don't let society tell you it is ok to eat yourself to death any more than it is ok to starve yourself to death. Neither is ok.