"I may be fat, but I beat my eating disorder"

[Napoléon]

Do you really think you can "care" someone into being a different weight or into adopting a healthy lifestyle as you see fit?

Do you think the same of smokers?

Fat people know they are fat.

Smokers know they smoke. What's your point?

It's not your job to inform them about how you think they should live their lives.

Didn't say it fucking was.

You are delusional and have an inflated sense of self-importance if you think your unsolicited advice is necessary or appropriate.

If I was going around to every tom dick and harry I saw who was fat, you might have a point.

As it is, we're talking about people we supposedly care about. If I wanted to help someone by suggesting they try losing weight, and give them the avenues to do it, that's not delusional or having an inflated sense of self-importance.

Fuck me, I can't imagine you have any friends if this is how you'd actually treat them if they were to give you advice. You're talking as though I'm suggesting we go after everyone we know is fat and call them out on it. You're the idiot who's delusional.

People don't spend their lives justifying being fat.

Are you seriously telling me there aren't people out there who justify their obesity?

And you call me delusonal.

There are some things that you can't change.

No fucking shit. However you would rather people just mindlessly accept seeing others in poor health. What a beacon of morality you are.

YES you can change your lifestyle and all that shit, but there's a reason more than 90% of people revert back to being fat after losing weight.

Again, no shit. This is not an excuse to say nothing at all.

Reminding people that they are fat only makes you look like a dick and can hurt people down to their very core.

Looking like a dick depends entirely on how you'd go about it. You seem to think that no matter what you might say it's always going to be detrimental. Again, you do understand what the word tact means right? What is the reason for it not applying here?

And boo fucking hoo about them being hurt. It's this kind of sissy don't offend me mentality that leads to so many people being content with being overweight. If the intention is to hurt their feelings then sure, that's called being an asshole. That applies in any scenario not just with people who are overweight. However helping someone recognise that they are not in a good frame of health is not entirely negative like you delusionally think. Your attitude is counter-productive. Not everyone sits there one day and realises they're fat and decides to do something off of their own back. I'd say the majority do something about their weight directly because people around them help them to.

Also, do not speak for me and what things in "my world" are like with regard to offending people. You don't know a fucking thing about me.

Jimmies rustled.

I can speak for what you've been harping on about in this thread. And my opinion is you've been talking pure smack. You would rather have people say nothing at all for fear of offending or hurting someone's feelings. Correct me if I'm wrong.

Unsolicited advice rarely goes over well with the advisee. It's your life though, so rock on.

Again, framing it as though everyone's intention is to go out fatty hunting.

You rock on with your PC pussy foot agenda love.