I don't end up in this situation too often. Generally, I am super over the top sensitive to being a testosterony man and staring and saying objectifying things to women that I don't know, so I don't send signals to women that are normal, I'd guess. Most women think I'm gay. I flirt intellectually, I am never going to be the guy that goes into a bar and picks up women, partly because that's not my personality, and partly because the very idea of 'picking up' women sounds terrible and a little grocery store aisle to me. (I was a terrible man whore in college, so this didn't always apply.)
As an adult, I generally date people I've known for a while, and that has meant that I don't date a lot. After Alex and I separated, I haven't dated at all. (Mostly because I am busy 18 hours a day and sleeping the other 6, partially because I'm still a bit hung up on her.)
But with guys, I haven't ever even had that kind of relationship on my radar. So I didn't expect it, nor was I thinking it was a possibility.
As an update, I talked to him after the final, and he said he wanted to still be friends, but he needed a little distance. More because he was embarrassed, I'd guess. I told him I'm here for him as a friend whenever, and when school starts up in the fall, to text me or call me (apparently the kids don't do Facebook anymore.) And we'll have lunch in the student center.
As an adult, I generally date people I've known for a while, and that has meant that I don't date a lot. After Alex and I separated, I haven't dated at all. (Mostly because I am busy 18 hours a day and sleeping the other 6, partially because I'm still a bit hung up on her.)
But with guys, I haven't ever even had that kind of relationship on my radar. So I didn't expect it, nor was I thinking it was a possibility.
As an update, I talked to him after the final, and he said he wanted to still be friends, but he needed a little distance. More because he was embarrassed, I'd guess. I told him I'm here for him as a friend whenever, and when school starts up in the fall, to text me or call me (apparently the kids don't do Facebook anymore.) And we'll have lunch in the student center.
"There remain four irreducible objections to religious faith: that it wholly misrepresents the origins of man and the cosmos, that because of this original error it manages to combine the maximum servility with the maximum of solipsism, that it is both the result and the cause of dangerous sexual repression, and that it is ultimately grounded on wish-thinking." ~Christopher Hitchens, god is not Great
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