Became an atheist, need advice on Christian fiance

[Doubting Thomas]

Well one thing you really need to get out in the open right now is if you do get married, will she expect you to attend church with her every Sunday? If you hate going, you had better let her know that you don't want to go every week. You don't have to be an insensitive asshole, just tell her that you get no enjoyment out of it. You can compromise and go with her during important holidays such as Christmas or Easter, but if you hate going now and she expects you to go with her, you're going to end up really resenting her and her religion. You need to let her know right now that you hate going to church. Going with her right now is just telling her that you're going to keep doing so after you get married.

It's great that she still loves you and wants to be with you even though you don't share a faith. But, like most Christians who have loved ones who are atheists, she probably thinks that you're "lost" and need help being religious again. But before you get married, just make sure she's not going to pull any of that "unevenly yoked" nonsense later on.

Oh yeah, I've been married 11 years to a Catholic woman. When we got married I was still religious, though a few years after I started having serious doubts which I should have communicated to her then. But even though she forgave me for not being totally open & honest with her, she still wants me to "find my faith again." While she doesn't make me attend church with her, she drops little hints here & there like, "Do you want to go to church with me?" But out of respect for her I usually do go with her on Christmas and Easter.