(July 29, 2016 at 8:37 am)CapnAwesome Wrote:(July 29, 2016 at 4:07 am)bennyboy Wrote: The problem is that it's a circle, and fat-shaming feeds it, and for really no good reason. Telling someone "Get a grip on yourself. I mean, fuck, you have a choice," etc. is going to make someone feel powerless and unpleasant, and this will lead to escape in the form of food enjoyment.
Telling someone they have a choice is going to make them feel powerless? I think only context someone would believe that statement is in the fat shaming movement. Telling someone the lie that 'there is nothing you can do, it's your metabolism' is going to keep people fat and miserable.
Have you ever had to help someone who was obese, and was depressed about it, with losing weight? It's not that easy to keep them continually motivated to exercise more than they usually do, and eat much less than they usually do, unless they're fortunate enough to be internally motivated to lose weight rather than because of external pressure (which I imagine would be rather rare).
Weight problems are often more psychological than they are physical. Sure, theoretically, calorie intake restriction and exercise should do the trick for most people struggling with overweight issues, but if they're not continually motivated (internally) to keep under the calorie limit per day, then no amount of pushing and telling them they have a choice is going to help. If anything, it would just depress them further. So why make it even worse for them by enabling the fat shaming attitude within society? Why not just accept them for who they are, and stop focusing on their weight?
