(August 28, 2016 at 7:53 am)mlmooney89 Wrote: I'm gunna jump in with my opinion and answer to the poll (I picked the rant away which oh I will lol) before I back read 8 pages.
I know I'm in a good country where being a woman isn't a disadvantage so I'm not going to speak for the countries where there really is oppression for the female gender. But here in the US in every day life I have rarely seen sexism toward women. I've seen it much more toward guys.
The whole don't call me honey is ridiculous to me living in the south. I'm a female and I call everyone sweetie, honey, darlin, etc. I've been called these things as well my whole life by both family members and complete strangers. A lady can say "hey honey can you grab that off the top shelf for me?" To my fiancé with me standing right there and I will think nothing of it. At work the old men call me darlin when they say hello and I don't even notice. I understand people outside the southern American states don't grow up with that like I did but really getting mad over it seems childish.
I have two jobs and in both of them my boss is a female. My mother was in the army and was never told she couldn't do anything. She had been to Panama (in the 80s), Korea, and Iraq all before I graduated high school. Having a family or being female didn't keep her from going to war. I know so many females in high power roles and I've never been paid less than my male coworkers if we were the same level job description.
Women can dress in guys clothing, they can be workaholics, they can stay home with the babies, they can do almost anything now.
Men get less parental rights during a divorce simply for being a man, they can't wear girl stuff without being 'gay', they can't be sensitive or emotional without looking less of a man.
I don't like heels, fake nails, or make up but that's ok. Tony doesn't like football and he gets mocked. I'm not saying that girls don't need equality because we do but we sure as hell don't need to be superior to males because of our gender. You don't get the chivalry and the leave me alone I can do it myself. I personally like being treated nice. I like the door being held open for me but I will also turn around and hold it for the next person behind me regardless of gender. We need equality of BOTH genders not feminism.
All this shit going on and she gets mad over being called honey? Man don't come to Texas cause we as sure as fuck ain't giving up our manners and charm because you want to be an ass.
Context and setting matter .. a lot. That's your home turf and you're entitled to like it the way it is if you do. I'm such a chameleon in my speech patterns I'd probably pick it up if I was there any length of time.
Interesting to me that in that setting you're finding easy acceptance for leaving off make up. My wife used a little when we met but stopped happily when I expressed that preference. Never liked the feel, smell or taste of any of it. Though I did have a girlfriend for whom it was very important. I just accepted it as a cultural difference. She was so smart and open conversationally that I was never tempted to speak up against it. But then we never got close to getting married so who knows if I'd have tried to get that concession if we had.
Thanks for the responses everyone. This goes toward one of my long time interests - puzzling over the difference between the sexes.
