Is there a right way to romantically connect with others?

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Someone trying to talk anyone into something they don't really want to do is unethical. I don't see what is special about polyamorous relationships in this regard. It would be just as selfish to talk someone into a monogamous relationship.

It seems to me, and obviously this is a generalization, that men are more likely than women to want a polyamorous relationship, and I think this is for the most part ingrained in our genetic makeup.  Yes, people are different, and some women definitely would love an open relationship.  However, I don't think you can built an ethical view on exceptions-- you have to look at the greater good / greater harm to be done.

I'd put it this way-- some things are unethical in general, but there is always room for exception.  Look at it like this-- if a view was the norm, what would the society look like?  I think a polyamorous society would be totally fucked up-- rampant disease, neglected children, etc.  So I'd say in general that polyamory is not the right way for us to approach sexual relationships.

Okay well, none of those have to happen as part of such relationships. They are examples of them done badly.

I appreciate your point but I don't think generalising is fair. Any particular case may be unethical, but saying they are unethical in general because of what sometimes happens doesn't sit well with me. It sounds too similar to demonising gay relationships because of things that supposedly can be problems with them. There's nothing inherently unethical about a mutually consensual polyamorous relationship, in my opinion.

If people are irresponsible scumbags and/or need nannying in the first instance, that's a general problem with them, and won't go away just because they are the one person. Especially since so many people cheat anyway.