I believe suicide is selfish in that it hurts those close to the person committing it but I also believe that anyone who would want someone to spend their whole life miserable just so they can see them are far more selfish. The reality is there is at least almost always hope as the suicidal person can recover. What feels like permanence isn't permanent. That's the nature of depression...
... But what I'm saying is hypothetically if anyone were to think something like "I want them to stay alive even if they are never happy again and they experience nothing but misery and suffering until they die" to themselves, then that's extremely selfish to me. To want someone to stay living because you want them to be happy and well is one thing, but to want them to stay living just because you'll miss them if they're gone and you don't actually care about their happiness is extremely fucking selfish IMO.
... But what I'm saying is hypothetically if anyone were to think something like "I want them to stay alive even if they are never happy again and they experience nothing but misery and suffering until they die" to themselves, then that's extremely selfish to me. To want someone to stay living because you want them to be happy and well is one thing, but to want them to stay living just because you'll miss them if they're gone and you don't actually care about their happiness is extremely fucking selfish IMO.