Church demands the victim apologize to pastor's wife since the pastor did the rape.

[RoadRunner79]

Are you saying that the girl had done something wrong?

  Why do you jump to the most negative interpretation of the phrase?

Here, let's look at the definition.

amends

PLURAL NOUN

Compensate or make up for a wrongdoing.

‘try to make amends for the rude way you spoke to Lucy’

https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/us/amends

That is the only interpretation of that phrase, and it implicitly carries with it a charge of wrong-doing. Why you're ascribing that to me when it is the church which chose to insinuate wrong-doing on her part baffles me. I think you're upset at the wrong target.

I'm not saying she did anything wrong. I don't think she owes that church a goddamned thing, except perhaps a public excoriation for their disgusting behavior and a big, public middle finger.

So you would disagree with this definition then.
From: https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/make_amends

(idiomatic) To repair a relationship; to make up; to resolve an argument or fight; to make reparations or redress.  [quotations ▼]

I hope they can stop fighting and make amends.

I think that the one who was wronged in a situation, can attempt to make amends. Although really it is not a single sided endeavor.

To make reparations or your definition is not a wrong definition, but it is not the only one.