your views on modern day porn consumption

[Catholic_Lady]

Wouldn't a sensitive partner be aware of those insecurities you speak of?

Ehhhhhh......

I imagine ideally yes, one would share insecurities and ideally one would be empathetic enough to not trigger them. However, just speaking personally, part of me feels that perhaps my own negative feelings towards a partner watching porn are unreasonable. Assuming it was a fairly standard monogamous set up I'm not being "cheated" on and it's not being done behind my back, so complaining about a harmless activity purely because of my own issues (i.e: fear or jealousy of being replaced by a porn star perhaps?) seems unfair somehow. I'm not even entirely sure why I feel displeasure at the idea, although I think most of it is "what can they give them that I can't?".

If I was to be perfectly honest though, I likely would never mention or give sign of unease for the above reason so they wouldn't have a clue. Not from fear of making my own case, more than making them feel guilty for what is really a victimless activity.

I think your feelings are perfectly reasonable. You don't have to think there is something wrong with you for not being comfortable with your spouse getting off to videos/photos of other people, rather than you. People have different comfort levels and different values when it comes to sex and fidelity. There's nothing wrong with that.