Adoption of mentally impaired babies

[LadyForCamus]

If you think pregnancy is a sacrifice, try the next eighteen years.

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It's selfish in the sense that you're carrying the fetus (not child) to term, knowing fully well that that child will be doomed to a life of hardship, shopping the parenting out to someone else, because you have your morals which forbid you considering any other alternative.

I guess I'll never understand the mentality of it being okay, even morally good, to have your 2nd/3rd trimester baby killed in útero  (in probably an extremely painful death), while at the same time saying it's disgustingly immoral to have him/her adopted by loving parents right after birth. I can understand someone thinking they are *both* immoral and selfish. But to say the former is morally good while simultaneoisly saying the latter is disgusting and selfish makes 0 sense to me.

It's immoral IMO, because the able-bodied parent with the financial means to care for the child is choosing to bring the infant into the world, yet at the same time refusing to care for it.  If it's so morally wrong to abort your fetus due to its birth defects, then as the biological parent who made the decision to keep the child, it is your moral obligation to be responsible for that special needs child once you have delivered it into this world.  By your OWN choice.  You don't pawn the subsequent life-long work of raising that child off on someone else.  It's about taking personal responsibility for your choices. Imagine if that child has the cognitive ability to understand their parents didn't want him/her because of the disability. That must be an awful feeling to know your parents' love for you was conditional upon how much of an inconvenience in their lives they thought you'd be.