What level of dominance/submission do you expect from a romantic partner?
February 12, 2017 at 2:45 pm
The question is right there in the title.
It's not a completely sexually focused question because my confusion in life around the topic isn't really that sexual.
I just wonder about this because I've associated in various ways with women who sometimes expect, what I think of as being, irrationally domineering characteristics and actions.
For example....
I've been out with one woman who told me she liked it when her ex boyfriend ordered the food for her when they went out, ordered what she was going to eat. I told her I couldn't do that because I have no idea what she would even like, even if I did I imagine what people like changes depending on their mood.
Regardless of gender roles, dominance/submission or whatever, if someone tried ordering my food for me I can't even explain how annoying that would be.
I can understand a woman wanting a man to choose where to go on a date or picking the seats when you're out watching a movie. Those things seem reasonable enough to display decision making and control that some women expect a man to have.
When it comes to sex, I don't wait for verbal consent to make any sort of move but I do stop when a girl says no. That seems reasonable to me, but I have been with women who told me later after I have stopped, after they've said no, that they'd wished I carried on. Once I've been told that's the game we're playing I'm ok with it, but I'm not going to basically put myself in danger of being accused of rape to satisfy a woman.
I think I like to have a fairly high degree of control in a relationship but I think a fair few women want to be controlled to levels that are just a bit higher than what I see as reasonable.
Obviously everyone is different which is why I'm asking your opinions on this and what your levels of expectations are of a romantic partner in terms of dominance/submission. And obviously there's different arenas in which dominance and submission play a part, in the bedroom, out for a meal, driving in the car.
It's not a completely sexually focused question because my confusion in life around the topic isn't really that sexual.
I just wonder about this because I've associated in various ways with women who sometimes expect, what I think of as being, irrationally domineering characteristics and actions.
For example....
I've been out with one woman who told me she liked it when her ex boyfriend ordered the food for her when they went out, ordered what she was going to eat. I told her I couldn't do that because I have no idea what she would even like, even if I did I imagine what people like changes depending on their mood.
Regardless of gender roles, dominance/submission or whatever, if someone tried ordering my food for me I can't even explain how annoying that would be.
I can understand a woman wanting a man to choose where to go on a date or picking the seats when you're out watching a movie. Those things seem reasonable enough to display decision making and control that some women expect a man to have.
When it comes to sex, I don't wait for verbal consent to make any sort of move but I do stop when a girl says no. That seems reasonable to me, but I have been with women who told me later after I have stopped, after they've said no, that they'd wished I carried on. Once I've been told that's the game we're playing I'm ok with it, but I'm not going to basically put myself in danger of being accused of rape to satisfy a woman.
I think I like to have a fairly high degree of control in a relationship but I think a fair few women want to be controlled to levels that are just a bit higher than what I see as reasonable.
Obviously everyone is different which is why I'm asking your opinions on this and what your levels of expectations are of a romantic partner in terms of dominance/submission. And obviously there's different arenas in which dominance and submission play a part, in the bedroom, out for a meal, driving in the car.
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