RE: What level of dominance/submission do you expect from a romantic partner?
February 12, 2017 at 10:18 pm
Ok. I'll answer more in tune to what your question was meant to be.
When I go with a partner to the movies, I usually take turns. The first time I'll be a gentleman and let them pick, the next I'll suggest the movie. When it comes to seating, it's usually both of us coming to an agreement.
"Do you like the center?" "Yes, but more to the top." "How about these?" "Perfect."
When it comes to choosing where to eat, it's also usually turns, but being careful to acknowledge tastes. Say it's my turn to choose, but she hates sushi. I won't pick sushi. "I'm in the mood for chicken. There's this new place down 4th. Let's try it." Or... "I picked last time. What are you in the mood for today? What are you craving?"
On approach... with men I was usually approached first. I've always had mostly male friends and it never occurs to me that they like me besides being buddies. I wouldn't approach them as anything other than friends because it wouldn't cross my mind until they made it ultra obvious, and then I'd be like Ooooooohhhhhhh I get it. Also, we split the checks, or take turns paying. With women I'm usually the one to start stuff, ask them out, begin the flirting, etc. I'll invite them on dates, I'll pay for the meal, I'll drive, open the door, carry their stuff and walk them to the door (unless I get to stay, I'll walk in after them, too). I like to spoil my woman. I also prefer sweet women, since I'm very stiff and it helps make me feel softer. Makes me nervous as hell, though.
I was married for ten years and I never got to pick the movie. Never got to pick my friends. I really didn't have room to recognize my own preferences. Now that I know what I like, I enjoy doing what I like, dammit! But... I also enjoy letting someone else enjoy what she likes. Ya know, equals. I don't want to do unto others what was done unto me.
It also makes me feel very good when a woman asks me for help in something. They know this at work. There's this girl at work that calls me to her desk every time she needs to open the hot sauce bottle, move her desk, or figure something out. I love it. She knows I love it, so I appreciate it. Lol! When the dudes are asked to help moving stuff around, they always include me, and I feel great.
When I go with a partner to the movies, I usually take turns. The first time I'll be a gentleman and let them pick, the next I'll suggest the movie. When it comes to seating, it's usually both of us coming to an agreement.
"Do you like the center?" "Yes, but more to the top." "How about these?" "Perfect."
When it comes to choosing where to eat, it's also usually turns, but being careful to acknowledge tastes. Say it's my turn to choose, but she hates sushi. I won't pick sushi. "I'm in the mood for chicken. There's this new place down 4th. Let's try it." Or... "I picked last time. What are you in the mood for today? What are you craving?"
On approach... with men I was usually approached first. I've always had mostly male friends and it never occurs to me that they like me besides being buddies. I wouldn't approach them as anything other than friends because it wouldn't cross my mind until they made it ultra obvious, and then I'd be like Ooooooohhhhhhh I get it. Also, we split the checks, or take turns paying. With women I'm usually the one to start stuff, ask them out, begin the flirting, etc. I'll invite them on dates, I'll pay for the meal, I'll drive, open the door, carry their stuff and walk them to the door (unless I get to stay, I'll walk in after them, too). I like to spoil my woman. I also prefer sweet women, since I'm very stiff and it helps make me feel softer. Makes me nervous as hell, though.
I was married for ten years and I never got to pick the movie. Never got to pick my friends. I really didn't have room to recognize my own preferences. Now that I know what I like, I enjoy doing what I like, dammit! But... I also enjoy letting someone else enjoy what she likes. Ya know, equals. I don't want to do unto others what was done unto me.
It also makes me feel very good when a woman asks me for help in something. They know this at work. There's this girl at work that calls me to her desk every time she needs to open the hot sauce bottle, move her desk, or figure something out. I love it. She knows I love it, so I appreciate it. Lol! When the dudes are asked to help moving stuff around, they always include me, and I feel great.
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