RE: Advice on a personal matter
March 5, 2017 at 1:34 pm
(This post was last modified: March 5, 2017 at 1:35 pm by Whateverist.)
(March 5, 2017 at 2:25 am)Sterben Wrote: I'm turning thirty soon and I'm really bothered by fact I'm not as young as I once was. I'll elaborate more on why it's bothering me.
over the past I would say eleven years, I've mostly used the internet for my personal socialization. I do talk with others at work, but I never expose my true self; only a small portion is ever is ever shown. Even now, the whole self is never shown; it's out of fear, this fear has granted me comfort and has imprisoned my mentally. I shut myself out of the real world as much I can. The anxiety is really building up and I'm starting to self isolate from the world even more. All I'm starting to see is doors closing and I don't know how to manage this midlife crisis any more.
The anxiety (my bold), like resistance, is futile. No, that won't make it go away but you might try contemplating the pointlessness a little from time to time.
As for aging, for me, I've liked everything about aging except the physical decay - slowing metabolism, aches and pains, iffy sleep, that sort of thing. But the perspective you gain makes life more interesting I find. My enthusiasm for subjects isn't of the 'falling in love' variety any more but there is a lot of acceptance and appreciation possible with age that, I at least, didn't have when I was younger. Usually you will have accumulated more of the stuff you think you need by then, perhaps enough that you stop looking to stuff for satisfaction.
Some complain about diminishing sex drive but I find I appreciate it as much as ever but am less consumed by it and there are competing interests to keep it from becoming obsessive. Sex is one good thing. There are others .. dogs, plants, gardens, books and movies, nature, art and architecture to name a few. Personally, while I can enjoy some passive entertainmen I enjoy participatory creative endeavors. I always want to be open to ideas and inspiration and to be acting on them to make things. Very fulfilling.
Bottom line: life is finite. There it goes. Savor. Explore. Make it count but it isn't a test, there are no prizes (that matter) and no one to please but you - but that can actually be trickier than it sounds.
