Advice on a personal matter

[Sterben]

Then don't date mothers. Look for childless women. You could embrace that, too.

You're not going to like what you're about to read, but hey, you asked. Sometimes finding love means accepting difficulties such as children, distance, vengeful exes, and so on. Now, if you're in it for love, you'll find a way to deal with the other crap -- but if you're into it for convenience, sign out of the dating scene, and learn to be happy inside yourself.

And if you simply want to date and perhaps grab a piece of trim here or there, understand that sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.

I'm writing this as a father who always told any gal when the dating started going deeper, "I'm a package deal." You will probably not ever find a mother who will put you first before her child (unless said child is grown-up and moved out, and even then good luck) -- and if I'm reading you right, you're a little too old for Hey Nineteen.

So get over it. Make your peace with the complications older relationships involve, or roll up the doormat and take down the "Welcome" sign.

        I am too old for a nineteen year old, there would hardly be anything in common. Love is a funny word not to be taken lightly, but you do need to look for yourself as well. I know some single moms that just want some form of happiness and does not want money from him. But, those are rare in my city. A lot of woman here have children from different fathers, and yea I can picture that be tough sell to find a boyfriend. I'm not picking one the ones who want love, it's just a lot harder for them to expect another to transition into a family life style with another and her children.