RE: Some advice on how to deal with a "interesting" brother in law
July 2, 2017 at 5:20 pm
(This post was last modified: July 2, 2017 at 5:21 pm by Thumpalumpacus.)
(July 2, 2017 at 4:48 pm)It_Was_me Wrote: Well, this last weekend I traveled to my Grandma's funeral. [R.I.P.] I went up with my brother in law, and my two sisters. One obviously being his wife. However, I noticed that all he seemed to really do was rail against my parents and how they do things. Somehow the discussion of my parents will came up. [This probably because that is what my Dad is having to deal with with the passing of his mother, and since his father is already gone] He basically talked shit about my parents complaining how they are just going to give everything to one of my brothers he thinks is "coddled" by my parents. That my be somewhat true, but this brother of mine has some learning disabilities. He also complained about how my parents spend their money and how he feels "they aren't investing their money well".
I just sat there quietly while he and my sister [Not the one that's married to him] just talked shit and whined about this. I really wanted to simply tell him to just shut the fuck up about this. He is basically looking forward to my parents death because he is anxious as to what he's going to get. Dude, I could really give a shit about what I get when my parents die. Besides that being the point, both my parents have a good 40 years in them.
But if this ever happens again, what should I do about this? He really thinks he knows EVERYTHING. He thought he knew everything that was going on with my Dad's immediate family. When in reality he has zero clue. I usually just let him talk whenever he does his know it all shit, because it's really not worth arguing with him over it. But when it comes to trashing my parents, who I may have my disagreements with, I love dearly that's where I have to draw the line.
If you want to be nice and keep the peace, say nothing.
If you want to stand up for your parents, a simple "Whoa there, partner, that's my mom you're talking about" could do the trick.
If you want to shut him the fuck up, tell him his retirement plans shouldn't involve someone else dying. He may not shut up at that moment -- probably won't -- but I'd be willing to bet he never brings it up in your presence again.
