RE: I Think I May Have Come Close to Dying Friday Night
July 14, 2017 at 11:22 am
(This post was last modified: July 14, 2017 at 11:33 am by *Deidre*.)
(July 14, 2017 at 10:44 am)Shell B Wrote:(July 14, 2017 at 10:40 am)*Deidre* Wrote: You know what I think is intriguing (to me) about this thread? It's that there are people out there who don't shy away from conflict, or perceived conflict. I admire that lol I tend to avoid conflict more than deal with it, which I'm trying to change.
Okay, carry on.
If you see a therapist, they'll go over assertiveness with you ad nauseam. I know some timid people from group who really benefit from that. I can pick little fake fights with you, if that will help.
LOL!! Hmmm...
I would say that I'm not timid, it's more from having to deal with so many arguments with my dad (we have mended fences now) in the past, and so I think when I see conflict...I shun it. I pretend it's not happening, especially if I'm not the cause of the conflict. Which I never ammmm!
(July 14, 2017 at 10:57 am)LastPoet Wrote:(July 14, 2017 at 10:40 am)*Deidre* Wrote: You know what I think is intriguing (to me) about this thread? It's that there are people out there who don't shy away from conflict, or perceived conflict. I admire that lol I tend to avoid conflict more than deal with it, which I'm trying to change.
Okay, carry on.
My grandpa used to say in Portuguese, so I will rougly say it in English "The more you bow down to others aggressiveness, the more you expose your ass to more kicking."
Or sumething like that.
But, if you run away, you take your ass with you. There's my saying!
Being married now, I'm challenged with not being able to delete someone from my phone who pisses me off without warning, lol I have to actually deal with conflict, but you still don't have to say anything. My husband told me this week that my silence is sometimes worse than any mean words I could throw at him.
See? It works.
I'm kidding, it's not a purposeful thing, it's more a conditioned response from my arguing days with my dad. :/