(September 29, 2017 at 8:01 am)paulpablo Wrote:(September 29, 2017 at 7:49 am)Brian37 Wrote: Seriously, be careful. Lots of nuts on line.
Even outside dating, my friend from Oklahoma, it took him 3 years before he gave me his personal phone number. I've known John for 16 years on line, but even after all that, when I paid to have him visit me this past June, his dad was worried about him visiting someone he had never met in person.
If this guy is lagit, they won't mind a public meeting with you showing up with family or friends. I don't know how long you have been conversing with this person.
I would not do anything alone with someone, at least not for a couple of months. Lagit people wont begrudge you for insisting on safety.
If you show up with family on a first date I think that makes you the crazy one.
Meeting up in public is sensible. Taking down details about their car, appearence, address, phone number, social networking links and passing that onto a reliable friend/family member is also sensible.
No, it should not matter whom your adult buddy is. Any lagit person will understand.
Problem with your suggestion, is that a nut can steel a car, borrow a car and lie to you about all their private info and use a burner cell phone. If you meet someone online, I do agree to meet in public, but also take someone with you. The only way to prevent a con or sicko from hurting you is to have other face to face witnesses.
Your stuck on the privacy and the potential romance that might be muted. You need to get over that attitude. The internet is full of nuts, period. Again, a lagit person will understand your taking those safety measures.
I'd say if they question that, then it is a huge red flag.
