Obviously honesty is good but we have to figure out when and where it is acceptable. Like Cod said above when someone asks "does my bum look big in this" they're not expecting for us to do a detailed analysis of their bum and arrive at a scientific conclusion, there is more meaning there because when someone asks that not only are they letting you know they're insecure about it leaving them in a very vulnerable position but they're also hoping you will somehow take that insecurity away(or at least minimize it with KIND words).
There's a time and place for everything, a doctor can't lie about the cholesterol levels because it might hurt a patient, you can't say "oh she was a ___ anyway" in a funeral, you can't call a black person the n word, it's a thin line between honesty and asshole and sometimes kindness can mean telling a little white lie.
Like for example we have a little girl in our family she's loves to perform in the stage, singing and dancing and stuff. Every year our church arrange a little program for the kids where they are given opportunities to you know perform in front of hundreds and get some confidence. Anyway, the little girl in our family did a piece, singing or dancing or idk, I didn't see it tbh, but when I saw her I was like "you WERE SO awesome", "if you didn't do that piece I wouldn't have liked the whole of the program" and the sweet little thing was sooo happy with it, of course I could've instead opted to just go "meh, I bet your performance was just average, do you know how talented people around the world are? You'll probably never even go close to their level, you might as well drop this", now while that MAY be honest we still can't know but what we can know is someone that will say that will be a grade a asshole deserving of some proper ass kicking.
There's a time and place for everything, a doctor can't lie about the cholesterol levels because it might hurt a patient, you can't say "oh she was a ___ anyway" in a funeral, you can't call a black person the n word, it's a thin line between honesty and asshole and sometimes kindness can mean telling a little white lie.
Like for example we have a little girl in our family she's loves to perform in the stage, singing and dancing and stuff. Every year our church arrange a little program for the kids where they are given opportunities to you know perform in front of hundreds and get some confidence. Anyway, the little girl in our family did a piece, singing or dancing or idk, I didn't see it tbh, but when I saw her I was like "you WERE SO awesome", "if you didn't do that piece I wouldn't have liked the whole of the program" and the sweet little thing was sooo happy with it, of course I could've instead opted to just go "meh, I bet your performance was just average, do you know how talented people around the world are? You'll probably never even go close to their level, you might as well drop this", now while that MAY be honest we still can't know but what we can know is someone that will say that will be a grade a asshole deserving of some proper ass kicking.
