(December 17, 2017 at 12:14 pm)Whateverist Wrote:(December 17, 2017 at 2:08 am)Joods Wrote: Wow. We'll make sure to evict everyone in the state of Montana to make room for your ego.
As for me - people hate me because I don't do well in social settings. I tend to talk way too much and say way more about my life than necessary. Also - I have what some would consider to be a "strong" personality. People either like that or they don't. Most don't. I rub people the wrong way and I suffer from foot in mouth disease.
I've had to learn to be more like you socially. I was raised to be a perfect diplomat and that sucked. Why would anyone want to be everyone's friend? When I was actively dating two important things occurred to me. One, that it sucked at least as much to be the one who breaks off a relationship as it does to be the one rejected. Two, that being the case, it made no sense to put my best face (defined as the part they wanted to see) forward. All that did was ensure that I would always have to be the rejector rather than the rejected, not a win. By being disclosive about yourself and forthrightly honest n your opining, you may indeed rub some people the wrong way. But, unless you're running for political office, that's good. Winning mr or ms congeniality doesn't make for sustainably good relationships or even a satisfying life. You are much, much better off being yourself and allowing people to sort themselves out accordingly. You're my role model.
(December 17, 2017 at 2:08 am)Joods Wrote: That and I'm not pretty or attractive at all.
I've seen evidence to the contrary. Do you find there are men you like who are simply unbearably hard to look at? I haven't found that to be the case the other way around.
Thank you for this. I guess gaining 40 pounds since July (it has been over five months since I smoked a cigarette) has caused me to notice how unflattering 250 pounds looks on a frame that's 5 foot, 4 and 1/2 inches tall. And for as much as I am trying to work on that, I'm stressed out here at home and I just don't ever get any compliments from any of the people I live with.
I do need to hear it every once in a while but I am not going to beg anyone in my house to say it.
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand.
