RE: Divorce questions/thoughts
December 18, 2017 at 8:18 am
(This post was last modified: December 18, 2017 at 8:22 am by Joods.)
Go with your gut. If you are in a marriage that you don't enjoy, then don't stay in it. You will only regret it more the longer you remain there.
You just need to find your inner happiness. And you shouldn't really start another relationship on any level until you resolve the one you are currently in. Learn to truly be happy with the knowledge that you would be perfectly okay being by yourself, if you never got in another relationship. Once you do that, you are ready to bring all of you to a relationship. You can't expect someone else to provide your happiness for you. And, if you can't bring your own happiness to a relationship, is it really fair to expect someone else to supply 100% of it for both of you? I say, learn to provide your own happiness and you will have a much better relationship because you won't be counting on your partner for your emotional stability and vice versa.
Divorce is hard on people. I've been there twice, myself. Felt like I wasted precious years with someone who didn't give a shit. But I have always learned something from every bad relationship I've ever been in. And that's not necessarily a bad thing when you can learn a lesson from something like that.
You just need to find your inner happiness. And you shouldn't really start another relationship on any level until you resolve the one you are currently in. Learn to truly be happy with the knowledge that you would be perfectly okay being by yourself, if you never got in another relationship. Once you do that, you are ready to bring all of you to a relationship. You can't expect someone else to provide your happiness for you. And, if you can't bring your own happiness to a relationship, is it really fair to expect someone else to supply 100% of it for both of you? I say, learn to provide your own happiness and you will have a much better relationship because you won't be counting on your partner for your emotional stability and vice versa.
Divorce is hard on people. I've been there twice, myself. Felt like I wasted precious years with someone who didn't give a shit. But I have always learned something from every bad relationship I've ever been in. And that's not necessarily a bad thing when you can learn a lesson from something like that.
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