(December 24, 2017 at 5:23 am)Die Atheistin Wrote: I'm already atheist and I haven't told them yet. Sometimes I wonder if they're sure I'm a believer, if they fear that I only pretend to believe, or that I'll someday leave the faith. When I told my mom I had some doubts about the faith, she insisted that faith is good and I should stay, even though I didn't say I want to leave. She was speaking calmly and gently, but I felt like she was fearing and didn't want to exteriorize it. Dad is also pretty insistent about faith. My parents don't believe in Hell, so it can't be that. What they fear is that I will not follow the herd like a good sheep and life would be harder for me as a minority.
My question is: are they sure I'm a believer? Can I find the answer without asking them?
Also, Happy Holidays! For those who celebrate them and if you don't, then Happy Nonholidays! or Happy Commercialdays!
I just spent 45 mins yesterday talking on FB voice with my biological mother, not my adoptive mother who raised me. No, it was not an attempt to replace my now late mother. But really I had been fishing for anyone to talk to because I hate not being able to talk to someone on that day.
Anyway, a little backstory to this. I was a adopted at the age of 4/half maybe 5. I didn't find my biological family until the mid 90s. I was born in 1966.
My younger biological sister ALSO ditched her religion as an adult. But was still a believer when we first met. She got alot of shit from our biological family, alot more than I did because they knew I didn't believe when they first met me.
BUT, the good thing about family, if you don't make it a war, is time will get them used to it, even if they don't like it. I know my biological mother loves me. We have NOTHING in common, nor am I as close to her as I was with my late adoptive mother. It still took alot for her to give us up, me and my younger sister, so that we could have better lives.
If you always SHOW your parents you love them, while you may have to put up with living under their roof now, when you get on your own, you can be more expressive, but at the same time give them the space too.
Even my biological mother said last night, and as much as the mythology and sky hero crap bothers me, she did say, and I agree, "We are more alike than we think."
I really DO hold the position that MOST humans are good, or at least think they are trying to do good. I merely disagree as to where that good is coming from.
