I find anniversaries (of being together) relatively valuable and just nice
I like anniversaries of most thing nice. A reminder of a good day or a first time spent with a good person (or having a good time, or both).
Marriages on the other thing I think are superficial and makes love feel like a contract and less spontaneous and free. I think if love is truly genuine, natural and free it will be spontaneously and people will stay together naturally.
I think 'commitment' is overrated. If the love really is strong enough a couple will stay together long enough naturally (because they love each other so much). The commitment could even be seen as a sign of weakness to me (possibly but NOT necessarily) because it's like the couple are trying to 'make themselves' stick together like they're not confident that that will just happen anyway (because they love each other).
I think a stable relationship without having to have a "I promise I promise I promise I promise. I commit" shows a sign of genuine true natural spontaneous love.
If a relationship is strong enough to stay without a 'commitment' (which I have said kind of makes it sound like a contract of some kind to me, perhaps less genuine and more superfical) then I think it must be a genuinely strong relationship.
And if the 'commitment' is really needed to stay together, then is it really the love or is it simply the 'commitment' that is making the couple stay? The 'commitment' seems like it just 'isn't worthy' to me when it comes to the genuine article: Love.
Besides, it's not like the commitment can't be broken anyway! People not only break their commitments but they get divorced. And I don't see why you'd want to make a 'commitment' like 'marriage' that makes it harder to escape the relationship when IF the relationship is no longer going well wouldn't you WANT it to end? - I mean if it has the possibility of ending anyway wouldn't it also be better to make it less hard for yourself by not having to get married so you'd have to 'divorce'?
And the thing is sometimes I think people kid themselves and think if they are married that they will NEVER divorce. SOME couples stay married for a lifetime...but some people seriously love each other and have a loving marriage but STILL get divorced.
And I also find the fact that you can walk out at any point to NOT be an uncomfortable or unstable feeling. For me it's quite the opposite because...
..I think the fact that two people choose to stay together despite the fact they could walk out so easily - the fact they can stay together genuinely and lovingly without (to me) a 'contract-like' 'commitment' or 'promise' such as 'marriage' - which I feel is simply unworthy of genuine Lov - I find the fact that people can stay together WITHOUT all that to be a mark of true genuine spontaneous love.
And yep; I think the fact that people could leave at any point and it's more open, and yet they still stay together because they love each other so genuinely and spontaneously - just shows how strong the love is.
Since if people are staying together simply because they are tied down by a 'commitment' and/or 'promise' such as 'marriage' then the love is not necessarily as strong I think...
Of course this is just my own personal view and opinion. It IS what I believe though.
And I know people can have a happy loving relationship whether they are married or not. This just what I feel on the matter.
EvF
I like anniversaries of most thing nice. A reminder of a good day or a first time spent with a good person (or having a good time, or both).Marriages on the other thing I think are superficial and makes love feel like a contract and less spontaneous and free. I think if love is truly genuine, natural and free it will be spontaneously and people will stay together naturally.
I think 'commitment' is overrated. If the love really is strong enough a couple will stay together long enough naturally (because they love each other so much). The commitment could even be seen as a sign of weakness to me (possibly but NOT necessarily) because it's like the couple are trying to 'make themselves' stick together like they're not confident that that will just happen anyway (because they love each other).
I think a stable relationship without having to have a "I promise I promise I promise I promise. I commit" shows a sign of genuine true natural spontaneous love.
If a relationship is strong enough to stay without a 'commitment' (which I have said kind of makes it sound like a contract of some kind to me, perhaps less genuine and more superfical) then I think it must be a genuinely strong relationship.
And if the 'commitment' is really needed to stay together, then is it really the love or is it simply the 'commitment' that is making the couple stay? The 'commitment' seems like it just 'isn't worthy' to me when it comes to the genuine article: Love.
Besides, it's not like the commitment can't be broken anyway! People not only break their commitments but they get divorced. And I don't see why you'd want to make a 'commitment' like 'marriage' that makes it harder to escape the relationship when IF the relationship is no longer going well wouldn't you WANT it to end? - I mean if it has the possibility of ending anyway wouldn't it also be better to make it less hard for yourself by not having to get married so you'd have to 'divorce'?
And the thing is sometimes I think people kid themselves and think if they are married that they will NEVER divorce. SOME couples stay married for a lifetime...but some people seriously love each other and have a loving marriage but STILL get divorced.
And I also find the fact that you can walk out at any point to NOT be an uncomfortable or unstable feeling. For me it's quite the opposite because...
..I think the fact that two people choose to stay together despite the fact they could walk out so easily - the fact they can stay together genuinely and lovingly without (to me) a 'contract-like' 'commitment' or 'promise' such as 'marriage' - which I feel is simply unworthy of genuine Lov - I find the fact that people can stay together WITHOUT all that to be a mark of true genuine spontaneous love.
And yep; I think the fact that people could leave at any point and it's more open, and yet they still stay together because they love each other so genuinely and spontaneously - just shows how strong the love is.
Since if people are staying together simply because they are tied down by a 'commitment' and/or 'promise' such as 'marriage' then the love is not necessarily as strong I think...
Of course this is just my own personal view and opinion. It IS what I believe though.
And I know people can have a happy loving relationship whether they are married or not. This just what I feel on the matter.
EvF
