RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 15, 2018 at 9:15 pm
Yeah, there's this sort of movement toward the idea that women have to give explicit and constant consent during any sexual encounter that I'm not buying. I don't want to have to do that. If I say no, either physically by pushing a man away/keeping my legs firmly closed/hitting him or verbally by telling him no clearly, then I've not given consent. If I engage in sexual behavior with him, and don't say no, I consider it consent, even if it icked me out then or later. Now, I do understand that coercion is a bitch. It's happened to me, but only after I've clearly said no. I did this weird thing when I was younger. If I said no and the person basically behaved like or stated that I couldn't say no, I just froze mentally and went through the paces. I consider that assault. If I never said no and just went through the paces, then I had a shady encounter, but I can't blame anyone other than myself for not speaking up.