Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist

[Thumpalumpacus]

Unless someone told me they wanted to stop or they weren't enjoying the sex... I'd have no clue that a woman wasn't enjoying the sex. I'd just assume they were. Obviously women usually moan in pleasure when they're enjoying sex but I'd probably be too focused on the sex to notice if that was missing. As far as I'm concerned "I'm not enjoying this" or "stop" are what you say if you're not enjoying something or want them to stop. Indeed... no telepathy required. But some of us are too socially awkward to speak social awkwardness-ese. But even if you're not enjoying something or feel uncomfortable that doesn't necessarily mean you want the person to stop. "Stop" definitely does mean you want the person to stop. The word "stop" would be what I would be listening out for if someone wants me to stop something. That's kind of the point of the word.

I've never had any issues understanding when my attentions were unwanted. "I'm uncomfortable" is one of those points, for me. When someone tells me my actions are discomfiting them, I will review my actions and make appropriate changes. That includes stopping in order to perform that reassessment. In all likelihood, that stoppage will be permanent simply because I am uncomfortable with the idea of making a woman uncomfortable in these sorts of cases.

Put shortly, if I sense a boundary, I pull up short of it. If I feel I've crossed one, I apologize and back up. I understand that people can and do signal intentions (or their absence) well before they vocalize them.

The guy here should have been paying more attention, in my opinion. He should have had more simple consideration for her feelings. The fact that he didn't have that consideration makes him a douchebag creep in my book.