Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist

[henryp]

I am an extremely passive person.  I hate confrontation, or displeasing anyone.  I’m practically a push over, but I’ll tell you what...if someone is touching me in a way that I don’t like, or want, they’re gonna know it.  If a woman is so passive that she is incapable of clearly verbalizing consent/non-consent during a sexual encounter, that’s a huge problem.  That’s a debilitating type of problem that is going to interfere with her everyday functioning, and she should seek out some support.  What’s her alternative?  Never go on a date again, because she can’t even speak up about not wanting to go back to the guy’s apartment?  Something is just not right about this encounter as it was reported, I’m sorry.

Has anything during this #Metoo movement made you think that women are good at standing up and saying No in vulnerable situations?  Nothing about her story seems out of the ordinary when compared with a lot of the other stories in terms of her inability to voice her concerns.  

I don't disagree about not being confident to verbalize non-consent is a huge problem, but it's not an uncommon problem.   And hopefully, society works on raising women to be more confident/comfortable in those situations.  But I don't think it means it's okay for everyone to go to town on the passive ladies while the getting is good either.  

The current status quo is great for really shitty men.