Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist

[Thumpalumpacus]

To be honest, yes, I've had to guess sometimes when working an angle as to what she's feeling.

I have absolutely no fucking idea what the fuck ANYBODY is feeling unless they literally state what they are feeling. I don't even literally feel MY OWN feelings.

I think I'm kind of glad I'm alone all the time lol.

If I have to actually empathize with people enough to guess how they're feeling and what their hints mean, then I think I'm probably going to give up on socializing... and certainly sex. Which thankfully I've only had a couple of times anyway and thankfully so far no one has tried to get me to guess that they weren't in the mood. Thankfully they seduced me rather than the other way around (I have no idea when a girl is flirting at me or whether they like me or not. I don't know what these supposed social cues things even are).

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It works better for me if I assume that her saying "no thanks, I'm uncomfortable", or saying "I don't want to hate you because I feel forced" are actually her true feelings -- firstly, because it keeps me out of this creepy/gropey/rapey territory (and that's always good with street cred, ya dig?), and secondly, because it keeps me from having to deal with potential legal consequences.

Yeah what I do is just play it safe and end up on the unnecessarily cautious side and kill the sexual mood together.... I'm on the extra careful super nervous side.

Until I get intimate with someone enough for them to be my sexual partner.

If I was having sex with a girlfriend who always loved having sex with me and one day she randomly stopped enjoying the sex halfway through.... then hopefully if we'd become that intimate she'd already know by then that I wasn't the sort of person to be given hints half way through sex. I'd be totally deluded at that point and without nerves and caution so I'd need them to be literal at that point.

Thankfully I've never been close to anyone enough in RL for me to trust them enough to lose my own anxiety enough to stop being careful so much that I worry so much that I kill the mood.

Basically, I am glad I've never become complacent in RL.... I guess. Probably a good thing I'm too anxious to even get a date in the first place. Better than getting a girlfriend and stopping worrying about being unable to take hints and letting myself relax a little and be happy and then my girlfriend for some bizarre reason suddenly doesn't know that I'm me the guy who can't take hints, and goes ahead and goes for the giving hints approach anyways.

I just realized I haven't slept for since like forever lol.

Sounds like another thread entirely, bud. Go get some sleep, and g'night.