RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 18, 2018 at 1:36 pm
(January 18, 2018 at 1:25 pm)Hammy Wrote:(January 18, 2018 at 12:55 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Imagine this. Two people start making out. Clothes come off. They continue to make out, completely naked. Is it reasonable at that point for one of them to assume that its ok to reach for the others' genetelia?
If you're making out with someone and you both got naked and are making out naked, do you have to ask "may I touch your vagina?" If you do so without asking, is that sexual assault?
As I said before. Getting naked during a make out session certainly sends out a major non verbal cue.
Asking "may I please touch your vagina" would kill the entire mood.
And what if she's the submissive type and likes to be told what to do DURING sex?
If she had to permit everything that would turn her off because she's submissive and doesn't want to have to tell the guy what to do.
The point is that once sex starts.... sex has started. To stop it... you say "stop".
Then maybe they have to agree on a safe word ahead of time, eh? Or communicate about rules of conduct. True dom/sub relationships tend to communicate enough that this isn't an issue. But if that is going on in the *first date* without previous conversation, the alarm bells should be ringing off the hook.